I don't like to co sleep with my kids because I can never settle properly with them near me, they steal the doona, and DH has to move into the middle of the bed to accommodate them so I have less room. We do take them in if they are really unsettled but in general as the child comes into our bed I sneak off into their recently vacated bed. Perhaps your DF having somewhere else to go to sleep would help solve the problem of him not liking co-sleeping?
Well then he's being as manipulating as she is to try and get what he wants ...my DH can't or won't help with settling/getting up in the night either, so he sleeps in the spare bed. Like it or lump it is my theory but at least he's happy enough that everyone is sleeping.
Not all babies are happy to sleep in a lonely room on their own.
DH & I have started the co-sleeping discussions for #2 already, and DH's concerns are that I had nightmares of squashing DS even though we weren't co-sleeping! I agree with MamaPan - maybe have the discussion in the light of day when she's at her cutest
One thing that did work for us while I was on mat leave - and now that DH is the SaHD and I'm the f/t wage - is that the carer gets a night off each week - Saturdays worked best for us, as it gave a full night's sleep on "school nights" and the end of the "school week" to the f/t wage which we both agreed was really important. Now if DS is going through an annoying, whinging, crying patch, I'll ensure DH has a night or 2 of unbroken sleep - it really makes the difference to our relationship. It also means that he was more likely to help me early in the morning so I could get a little sleep.
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...my DH can't or won't help with settling/getting up in the night either, so he sleeps in the spare bed. Like it or lump it is my theory but at least he's happy enough that everyone is sleeping.
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