I don't budget for the girls but should because I usually go a bit nuts. Start with a definitive list and then find one more "perfect thing" for one girl, so have to find another for the other! Nuts. DH and I vary what we spend on each other. We usually get each other books, dvds etc and then often a big thing that is for the two of us for the house. I'd really LOVE a new bbq this year (Santa, if you're reading . . .)

DH's family is enormous so we spend $15 per child. For adults we do a kris kringle for $120 each. My folks I normally spend $150 odd each, sometimes more if I find something for them I really like . Sounds like a lot, but my parents help us out enormously with the girls throughout the year so its a nice way to thank them.