So, what does the little note in your siggie mean? 5w 1d?
By the way, if your DH is squeamish, I can only recommend a water birth. Not only did it do WONDERS for me in regards to pain management, but it also has the added bonus that the baby comes out clean - lol.
And Tobily is right. A homebirth will tend to have less emphasis on the "gore factor". Less light. And probably have a much more "serene" feel to it.

All the best!

Saša