Must say I agree with Alan. Obviously its your body and your baby and your decision but if something does go wrong can you take responsibility for your actions? And have a DOCS notification reporting you for not having the best interests of your baby at heart. Not been cruel just stating the facts that if something did go wrong and you did end up in hospital with complications then that would probably be one of the consequences. And for your older child? That tiny tiny risk of you (not including your unborn baby) leaving your older child with a compromised mother! Yeah it happens in hospital and intervention does increase that chance where as your reducing it at home but you have trained medical staff dealing with any problems that arises (and thus the responsibility is on them not you) Can you throw that responsibility on your family memeber that is a midwife and let her take responsibility and possible look at de-registration if something did go wrong and an inquest showed her to be at fault? Why not home birth? I am sure you could find an IM at a later stage depending on what area you were settled in. That gives you the option of staying at home and not having the interference of others except your IM hiding in the background (or participating how you want them to) and still having the security that a trained professional is there is the instance that something did happen that need fixing (such as a cord around the neck etc.

I am all for home birth definately but free birthing can be dangerous. Google what happened to one of the largest advocates of free birthing in Australia Janet Fraser.

As for the paper work that can be difficult. Not sure how you get your birth certificate and medicare forms etc as the midwife at your babies birth is the one to sign it and not sure how you go about proving you birthed your bub etc. I know a friend who had an unintentional birth at home and it took her months to get her money for bub as she was alone.