Homebirth General Discussion #14

[Cassius2]

WAHOO JENNIFER!!!!

Have you noticed that you now make the list twice many many congratulations, DD3 is our surprise baby and she is just wonderful

[Arimeh]

Ok so I've read some books so far, really have to get stuck into my hypnobirthing one though - my midwives are used to calm births and I think I'll feel very self conscious if I scream or swear in front of them. I know from the last two that I am a bit of a screamer though, helps me release. Has anyone else had two screamy births and then a nice calm birth? Or have an idea on how to stop myself from screaming?

My last appointment with my midwives involved meeting the OB that works in conjunction with them. She wants me to take the GTT even though I didn't take the test last time and my baby was only 7 pound 12. She said its because I've packed on a lot of weight already, thats why she wants me to take it. I think I'm just a fat arse who can't stop eating carbs and sugar and thats why I've put on so much weight. When you go from an extremely low carb diet and start eating carbs again, you are bound to put lots of weight on right?

I've been testing my blood glucose levels at home and so far they are fine - I'm considering emailing my midwife and OB and asking if I could skip the test but instead do daily testings on myself.

[Arimeh]

Double post, double post. Every time I write that I think of that blackboard thing in mr squiggle - hurrry up......double post....

[Cassius2]

you dont need to do the test, it's totally 100% up to you

[Arimeh]

yeah I know, I didn't do it last time because I didn't think my risk factors were that much - I was overweight but that was all.

I'm just wondering if she has a point because of my weight gain - plus I'm nearly 36....

[Arimeh]

Mr Squiggle

[meow]

If you're happy to do the tests yourself with a kit then I say go for it. Just let them know you would like to take that course of action. Much more accurate anyway and no toxic sludge drink

[HomeStyleMumma]

Jen congratulations on baby number 3 what a beautiful surprise... Sometimes we (or husbands perhaps in your case) do well with things just spontaneously happening on there own Hope the mw hunt is easier than expected to.

Arimeh I don't have an opinion for you re gtt... But I wouldnt really worry about making noise in front of your MWs, I'm sure that even if they have lots of women who hypnobirth they'd be experienced with 'louder' births as well. And in my person experience how you are in one birth can be completely different to another. My first two I didn't make much noise at all only a little deep moaning towards the end really, my fourth practically no noise at all. But my 3rd and this birth I made more noise (same kinda noises just more and much louder!). I think a lot depends on how the actual labour progresses etc (my noisey ones were super intense and difficult to cope with)

[Cricket]

Arimeh - I gained 55 lb in my last pregnancy (so hungry!) and my midwife never pushed for the gestational diabetes test. And my last baby was also 7lb 12oz. I had been working hard to lose weight before I became pregnant, and as soon as I stopped "dieting", combined with being exhausted and feeling like crap if I wasn't eating non-stop, I gained weight super fast. If you've had reasonable sized babies, no family history of diabetes, and are otherwise healthy, I think you're pretty low risk. Talk to your midwife about the risk factors, I guess. As far as age goes, anyone over 25 is "higher risk", but that's virtually all the expectant population these days. As with everything, there's a risk with skipping the test, but it's just a matter of determining your risk/benefit ratio, and deciding what you're comfortable with. If it's on your mind and you're worried about it, then take the test and set your mind at ease.

About the birth - if your midwives aren't OK with screaming women in labour, they're lousy midwives. I'm sure you're not going to shock or offend them with whatever ends up happening during delivery, and I don't think that should stress you out in the least. For what it's worth, though, my fifth baby was my easiest labour. (That was my brow presentation baby. Pushing is where it got hard, but the labour was really easy!) I hardly made a sound through contractions right up until the end - just a bit of low moaning around 9-10cm. I couldn't believe it when they told me I was fully dilated and could push! My other deliveries were much louder. So it definitely could happen that you'll have a very calm and peaceful birth this time, but honestly, don't let that worry you at all!

[Cricket]

double post...

[loulabelle]

Having a bit of a panic over getting all the scripts I need. I don't have a long term gp that I think will be supportive due to moving states. Have any of you had trouble with gps refusing? Apparently there has been a lot of it over the last 6 months. I know I've got time up my sleeve,but it's making me feel stressed just thinking about it.

[Jennifer13]

My GP is great, but I know my m/ws wrote down her name when I told them jic they needed to refer someone. So I take it she's not the norm. If you're in northern Sydney I can help.

Reminds me, I need to make an appt so I can get referrals for blood tests and u/s.

My m/w and backup will both be my m/ws again this time - yay! My m/w just had a baby and said my other m/w might need to be first to call when I go into labour, since if she can't leave right away she's worried she won't make it. Knowing last time was quick, I will call as soon as things start!

Still all feels a bit weird.

[Lily Dust]

Having a bit of a panic over getting all the scripts I need. I don't have a long term gp that I think will be supportive due to moving states. Have any of you had trouble with gps refusing? Apparently there has been a lot of it over the last 6 months. I know I've got time up my sleeve,but it's making me feel stressed just thinking about it.

I've had major issues with GPs and my IM, loulabelle. I am very rural NSW though and it is just unheard of here to do something that isn't mainstream. Try not to stress, I am sure someone near you will be supportive, you just have to find who!

Score Jen on the midwives!

[glorious]

Hi everyone, I am tentatively stepping in here. I am in the TWW but i am trying to decide what to do when (if) i get my BFP. I have had a HB for #2 and will have another but we intend on leaving where we are about the time I might be due, I have a midwife willing to come be with me where ever i am for the birth but i cant have her for my antenatal care as she wont be qualified until the end of the year. So i dont know how i should go about having someone for simply my antenatal care. I am not sure i would want my previous mw again as so much has changed and my m/w requirements are different not as they were 6 yrs ago.
DH isnt being particularly helpful..

[HotI]

Glorious, If you are happy with her knowledge and experience do you need the piece of paper saying she is qualified?

[glorious]

I need the piece of paper to be able to claim it on private health.
and for other legal reasons why i wont ask her to provide care for me until she is registered.

[meow]

Jen- SO glad to hear your MWs are coming again!

Glorious- I agree with hoti... I don't think your MW's knowledge will change much just after she becomes qualified so I'd be happy to have her do antenatal care if you're happy to have her at the birth. Perhaps you could organise to see an already qualified MW for a few visits through the pregnancy for a bit of a qualified 'sanity check' if that would help? Perhaps just make arrangements to see someone on a pay-by-appointment casual check up deal, rather than a whole pregnancy & birth care deal.

[Jennifer13]

Glorious, I also claim my IM on private health, but I couldn't do that until after the birth. If your m/w will be qualified and can register with your insurer before you claim, shouldn't that be okay? My m/w fee was all bundled in one invoice so it made no difference whether I was claiming for antenatal and/or birth on my PHI.