I have looked at IMs and dh and I decided we just can't afford it at this stage especially as we just got approved for a home loan for our first home so there are a heap of expenses coming along with that. Maybe for my next birth if we are in a better state financially we'll opt for an IM.

With my dad not being there I've just been raised with some cultural taboos where you don't even discuss the pregnancy with male relatives (except dh). I'm cool with talking about it with my brother like just general pregnancy stuff sometimes but I do not discuss it with dad at all it's just too awkward for me. So the idea of him being in the house hearing me labour away is something that will cause me more stress than worrying about where he'll go if I don't want him there. It might sound odd but it's just something I am super uncomfortable with because of how I've been raised. I blame the culture! Like I said I don't even want mum there but she insists! And I suppose at the time I'll probably be grateful for whatever assistance she provides.