Arimeh - so glad you could go with your gut feeling and head to hospital when you knew you needed to! I can't imagine how scary and traumatic things must have felt for a while there. You did an awesome job of bringing that little one into the world, mama - you listened to your body and kept him safe. I hope everything is going smoothly at home. Is your midwife doing your postpartum care too? Is she coming to your house often?

About finding out the sex of baby - I have always wanted to know, but with three pregnancies they have not been able to tell us because of the way baby was sitting. So we've had it both ways, and I DEFINITELY like knowing better! I feel much more connected with my baby, knowing what they are. They're not an "it" but a "he" or a "she", and we can choose a name, and set out clothes, etc. It hasn't affected my bonding after birth at all, but I also didn't feel any great "SURPRISE" moment at birth for the pregnancies when we didn't know either. Some people say they love that surprise and it gives them something to work for when they are labouring, but I couldn't care less at that point. It doesn't matter whether it's a boy or a girl so long as it just COMES OUT!