Homebirth General Discussion #2

[Tegam]

Hugs again Stoked. Thinking of you and your family! i am so sorry you are in so much pain!

[Cassius2]

Hi ladies,

I started bleeding again today. Went to see dr and had a u/s.. Not good news... Bub passed away at 9 weeks. We are so very sad.

Wishing you all the very best with the rest of your pregnancies and for your wonderful homebirths. I look forward to hearing all about them.
Xxx

stoked i am so sorry to hear this, it's just not fair i hope that there are many hugs and comfort for you and DH xx

And to Sara, i am sending you lots and lots of and am sorry that your baby also grew wings, it's never easy

[Tegam]

We posted at the same time Sara

I am so sorry to hear of your loss Sara! the pain can be so crushing!. Please make sure you use BB as much as you need too! there is no right way to deal with this and no time frame!

Huge hugs!

[onthefly]

Oh Stoked I'm so sorry to hear that Will be thinking of you and your family too.

sara too. Such sad news.

I hope you'll both find healing and, in time, can come back with good news.

[Roryrory]

I am sorry to hear this news from both of you - as others have said I hope your healing is quick and you are back here soon

[*Infinity*]

~Stoked~ I am so sorry to hear your sad news take the time to grieve and sending lots of healing your way.

And Sara, big hugs for you as well. I hope in time things start to feel better.

For both of you, feel free to lean on the BB community as much as you need.

[~kaos~]

Stoked and Sara - so sorry to hear your news. I hope to see you back in this thread when your little souls return to you. Go gently and look after yourselves.

[Eenee]

to Stoked and sara

[Jennifer13]

Hi girls, quietly popping in to register my interest in learning about all things HB.

We are TTC at the end of this year and DP has said he is okay with me having a HB (which was a major obstacle). So while I'm not even pg yet, I'd love to learn from all of your experiences as you travel the road before me! Mine will be a HBAC. So I'll be watching Infinity with much interest!

[Cassius2]

hi jennifer and welcome woot woo on DH! such a good feeling when you can both be on the same track and approach this together. i reckon that has been the most amazing aspect so far with our HB journey...we are together in creating our space for this new arrival and no one comes in to interfere or block him out. such a special time to share with him and DD...

AFM: i need to book my 30 week appt with my back up midwife (and friend). however have to admit that i am slightly reluctant as i know that she is still reeling from the birth of our other friends son last week and i really dont want to set the wrong kind of mood ITMS. thinking i might hold off until 31 weeks....what do you guys think?

[onthefly]

I'm not sure Cassius - I guess there's no harm in waiting an extra week anyway.

Hi Jen - hope you're here officially soon...

I was thinking the same thing about DH being more involved with a homebirth. But he's so distracted with his job and other current obsessions he seems largely uninterested in the pregnancy. Oh well, i guess it's still early days yet. I just konw with him I need to get in very early and keep at it to actually get anythign out of him. As long as he manages to sort the pool out on the day we should be right.

[Eenee]

Just wanted to come in and tell you how proud of my DH I am! He was on the phone to MIL tonight to tell her we are having a homebirth- well it did not go down well, and I was waiting for DH to be influenced by what she had to say especially considering he took awhile to come around to the idea. WELL he was excellent, he imediately started rambling off facts about homebirth (who would have thought he actually listened to things
i said) and saying how safe it is etc. I gave him the hugest hug afterwards! He told her that he doesn't care what she thinks cos we're doing it anyway. Then he said look i'll give you stuff to read about it, and then told her he had to go. Cos she can get on her high horse. So what do you girls recommend that I give MIL to read? My parents are fine with it same with FIL it's just MIL, but i know she can get under DH's skin so I don't want her changing his mind.

[Jennifer13]

Em that's a great idea. I'd like some stuff to give DP too, to back himself up. I don't think he's prepared/aware that ppl will oppose our decision.

Also, does anyone know which health funds currently provide cover for midwives to attend a homebirth (if any)? Just thought I could do any necessary switching now, when I've got no issues with a waiting period.

[onthefly]

Jen, on priate health insurance have a look HERE

[Jennifer13]

Thanks Marcellus! I did a hunt around and found the Australian Unity one, which is a little more exxy than our current helalth fund, but we might be able to drop it back a bit after the birth. Seems like it will at least cover most of the cost. That will make DP happy.

[meow]

I'd check the health fund's current stance given all the who-hah over HB these days. Not that the fact that IMs can't set insurance should change anything because that's been the case for a while now.

[Tegam]

YAY Em thats GREAT news. So nice when you have the FILL sipport of your partner!

[Cassius2]

hi girls!

Em: that is great that DH stood his ground and defended the decision that you guys had made together xx it will give MIL a much harder battle front to complain if she sees that you guys are united and unanimous in the decision!

as for the PHI...not sure! we got rid of ours a few years ago, so have no idea! there have been a few ppl on BB that have used it though for their HBs...hopefully there is some info out there!