Me again... just have some exciting homebirthy news to share. My aunty and cousins (9 & 13) just came over and I asked them if they could be my son's support people for labour and they will My aunty is a single mum so time off work is a big deal for her but she's going to save a sick day for the occasion. Having support people for my son has been a bit of a weight on my mind so I'm so glad they're going to do it. My aunty has never laboured (breech c-sect followed by elective c-sect) but I think she'll be really cruisy about the whole affair and I'll be happy to have them in my space (on the out skirts though ).
We also got a copy of "Hello Baby" the other day and I read it to my son. He seemed interested in looking at the birthing pictures and then I made "the sound Mummy makes when the baby is coming out" so let out some loud moans and he wasn't pleased at all! Well, he can be pretty sensitive so he was good considering. He hid behind the side of the couch, peeking at me curiously.
He also seemed really intrigued by the ultrasound- watching them move it around my tummy and checking my face (which was smiling so he was okay). I think it made him 'get it' a little bit more that there is really is something going on with my tummy.
meow: ohhh so lovely that you got to see bubs! and how awesome to share that with DS! DD was at creche when we had ours...no doubt she would of started trying to rip apart the room though so probably was a blessing in disguise lol!
and awesome awesome news that your Aunty can help out with DS during the labour and birth. so nice to know that there is outlet for him if he gets a bit worried/bored/cranky etc. i am that my mum makes it down in time (she lives in QLD). otherwise we have had 2 sets of neighbours offer to watch her. but i would LOVE for her to be close enough that when baby was being born she could be there IYKWIM.
Marcellus: no doubt it is an anterior placenta...i was suprised as many of us in the belly buddies group have anterior placentas! i always thought that posterior was more common but am beginning to shift my thinking lol!
AFM: well Sue my midwife just left and we had a blast. as i mentioned she is a good friend and it was good to just catch up and talk about what happened with our mutual friend (who had the baby that needed help). i feel much better and calmer about things. she is also my calmbirth instructor so her voice and ways always are relaxing for me lol.
Her DD and my DD played 'midwives' and used the doppler and stethescope on eachother to 'listen to baby'....SO CUTE! (they are both 2.5 years old). just love having appts at home...so relaxing.
at your son hiding meow! DS saw a birthing scene on tv (you know the typical scream then out pops baby), so he has an idea of what happens. "mummy noisy. baby come out of mum's bum"
Great news that you Aunt will be there for your DS.
Awwww at those girls Cassius. how cute! sounds like your friend is a very handy one to have - midwife and calmbirth instructor!
Hi all, hope you're going well.
My midwife called today and I'm seeing her for the first time on the 20th (so long as noone decides to have a baby that day!). Yay.
just joined up, have been reading all the fantastic information on this site!
i am 15 weeks pregnant and am planning a homebirth.
I had an interview with a midwife about 4 weeks ago but things didnt go to plan,she didnt want to take me on as she felt i was too high risk and that i need to lose some weight before i have a home birth!..i found this a little bit strange, as im sure im not the first fat chick to try have a natural birth.
anyhow, i have another interview this saturday with another midwife, hoping that my motivation to lose a few kilos (which will help me in the long run) will sit okay with her.
i really hope that i can find a midwife to help me do this homebirth.
i have a fear/phobia of hospitals, each and every visit i have ever been to has been a negative experience for me. the most recent seeing my brother in a coma after a motorbike accident which left him a quadriplegic (feb 2008).
i promised myself i would never go in a hospital again!! I am also a person who tends to not take many drugs, not even panadol for a headache, i just dont like putting these things into my body. i find relaxation, and massage and a nice hot shower a way to deal with pain.
i just wanted to say thanks to all you ladies on this forum, who have given me comfort. I find feel that i am not going to lose the weight in time for my homebirth, and that i will have to be rushed into hospital for a c section!!! i dont want this..AT ALL!! so this is why ive come to read some positivity.
My favorite thing to you tube is hypnobirth/calmbirth, its gives me energy and it makes me so excited to meet my baby (due christmas day this year) !!!
Ok, I'm officially talking to myself now. But I have a question
My midwife is apparently having to take some extended leave. I don't konw what hte story is but the fill-in midwife will be doing my apt. I'm slightly anxious now - part of the big attraction of this was having my own midwife. I'm sure that whatever has come up is very important and don't begrudge her this tiem out at all. But I'm kinda worrying that I'm hardly going to see her before the birth. Or what if something else comes up again later? I'll see what the other midwife says in 2 weeks time, but what do you reckon?
(It's preemptive stress I know since I'm not even 19 weeks yet)
Sorry not to have replied to your other posts!! I think it's fair to wonder what is happening with your care and what to expect for the rest of the pregnancy & the birth. Though I wouldn't stress yet. I saw my midwife ages ago and to save money we skipped any appointments in the second trimester as I'm going well and I wont see her for another 3 weeks still. It does feel like AGES between seeing her but your appointments get more frequent in the 3rd trimester so I think it'll be a good time to cover lots of ground and really prepare for the birth. I hope the appointment goes well with the replacement midwife and she can give you an idea of what is happening.
marcellus: i would think that it would be fine. Like meow said, the first and second tri appts are quite spaced out (4-6 weeks) and i too found it hard to know if we could get a good connection happening (we got along well, but you know that kinda connection that you want from an IM who will be welcoming this baby with you ITMS). i have found that since hitting the final trimester and our appts getting down to every 2 weeks has BEEN GREAT! simply seeing her more often has really helped solidify the relationship.
i reckon that if you feel a bit disconnected that you should organise (finances permitting of course) to just have her come over for an extra session, even if it is not a 'necessary' appt IYKWIM. sometimes just knowing that they can come and do that is enough to get things back on track.
AFM: well i had a similar moment as Marcellus today lol! i thought our appt was today, but forgot that she goes on holiday this week so just checked my diary and have to wait til next week...nooooo! i really look forward to these meetings, so am bummed (also bummed at my shocking memory for fooling me lol!).
My aunty is a single mum so time off work is a big deal for her but she's going to save a sick day for the occasion. Having support people for my son has been a bit of a weight on my mind so I'm so glad they're going to do it. My aunty has never laboured (breech c-sect followed by elective c-sect) but I think she'll be really cruisy about the whole affair and I'll be happy to have them in my space (on the out skirts though
).
and how awesome to share that with DS! DD was at creche when we had ours...no doubt she would of started trying to rip apart the room though so probably was a blessing in disguise lol!
that my mum makes it down in time (she lives in QLD). otherwise we have had 2 sets of neighbours offer to watch her. but i would LOVE for her to be close enough that when baby was being born she could be there IYKWIM.
at your son hiding meow! DS saw a birthing scene on tv (you know the typical scream then out pops baby), so he has an idea of what happens. "mummy noisy. baby come out of mum's bum"
so just checked my diary and have to wait til next week...nooooo! i really look forward to these meetings, so am bummed (also bummed at my shocking memory for fooling me lol!).
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