Just popping in to say hello and let you know that very unexpectedly we welcomed our tiny baby girl into the world yesterday at 25 wks + 6 days. You can read the BA HERE
Obviously she wasn't born at home!
BBL another time to post more. Hope you're all going well.
Stoked and Sara - I am so terribly sorry about your losses. I wish you lots of strength and healing.
Jennifer - I switched to Aust Unity before this pregnancy. There is a 12 month waiting period for homebirth, so bub cannot come before our coverage date (bub's due a month later, so we should be OK there. If bub came before our coverage date we couldn't have a homebirth anyway). I then wrote a letter to them requesting the homebirth refund when I was about 20 weeks pregnant and had a positive response that week. They already had our IM on their approved list. So far they will offer cover to 30 June 2012, based on the changes that are coming through with IM's having a 2 year grace period. It did make a huge difference in our PHI cost, but we'll reduce it after the birth and the refund is paid.
Infinity - Wow! Congratulations on the birth of your daughter Heidi! Wishing her lots of strength as she grows in NICU - I hope her stay isn't too long and that both you and your DH don't find the time too stressful.
Em - good on your DH for standing up to your MIL.
I haven't posted on here in a while. All is going well. Now at 31 weeks and counting down the remaining weeks. Still having issues with SPD, now joined with constant back pain. I just figure it's all softening me up for a nice and easy birth at home Funnily enough, the thing that works the best is hydrotherapy with warm baths a second, so I see it as a sign this bub is a water baby.
We're on 2 week appts now. We've stopped discussing the ins and outs of birth now and have moved on to being emotionally ready and being able to trust the people in the room (I'm a control freak and just need to learn to let go). My IM wants me to focus on the love that created this bub in the lead up to the birth. Also, I'm practising letting go of my fear of a hospital transfer/caesar. I figure if I concentrate on it, it kind of invites it into my life. We have the experts we need, so we know if it has to happen, it has to happen. Meanwhile I want to pack a hospital bag in the next couple of weeks, just so I won't need it, if that makes sense.
In the next appt, we look at how to cope after baby arrives. Should be interesting.
Infinity: congrats on the arrival of Heidi! Like i mentioned in your BA i hope that the she continues to go from strength to strength and comes home soon xx Can't wait to see some pics! *mwah*
Tashybabe: HELLO!!!! it has been awhile! i was wondering how you were; especially with the SPD. pity to have missed you at the BB meetup at the EBC. although the music was so loud that we probably wouldnt of been able to chat much anyway lol!
we are also down to fortnightly appts so exciting! i also need to 'let go' and surrender to this birth process, come what may. but man it aint easy, especially when i have the PTSD thingy to contend with urgh...but Nicola is so awesome and calm and confident that i am always left feeling really awesome after visits.
AFM: have my next appt tomorrow! very excited as it is also with my backup midwife who is a good friend of mine. she is bringing her little girl around too as my DD and her DD are besties lol! so Leila is already 'preparing' for the occasion and organising games lol!
Wow Infinity!!! Your daughter arrived so early and I'm so glad to hear how well she is going. So excited for your amazing, fast VBAC too
Sounds like it's getting to the business end tashybabe and cassius! Very exciting!!
I had my 20 week ultrasound this morning and all went really well. I was pretty nervous as I havn't been able to feel baby moving much but it turns out I have an anterior placenta so that explains that I'll give it a couple of days for my results to get on my file at the birth centre then I'll be ringing up to pull out of the hospital!! Can't wait for it to be official.
Congrats again Infinity. I too hope she is going from strength to strength
Hi Tashybabe - I hope your mental preparation is going well. And that's good you're talking about 'after the baby' - it's so often overlooked in antenatal care.
Your midwife sounds wonderful Cassius, just what you need! Glad your DD is excited about the visit too
That's great about your scan meow. I've been wondering if maybe mine is anterior too - I could feel more at this stage last time. But I guess they're all different anyway.
Me again... just have some exciting homebirthy news to share. My aunty and cousins (9 & 13) just came over and I asked them if they could be my son's support people for labour and they will My aunty is a single mum so time off work is a big deal for her but she's going to save a sick day for the occasion. Having support people for my son has been a bit of a weight on my mind so I'm so glad they're going to do it. My aunty has never laboured (breech c-sect followed by elective c-sect) but I think she'll be really cruisy about the whole affair and I'll be happy to have them in my space (on the out skirts though ).
We also got a copy of "Hello Baby" the other day and I read it to my son. He seemed interested in looking at the birthing pictures and then I made "the sound Mummy makes when the baby is coming out" so let out some loud moans and he wasn't pleased at all! Well, he can be pretty sensitive so he was good considering. He hid behind the side of the couch, peeking at me curiously.
He also seemed really intrigued by the ultrasound- watching them move it around my tummy and checking my face (which was smiling so he was okay). I think it made him 'get it' a little bit more that there is really is something going on with my tummy.
meow: ohhh so lovely that you got to see bubs! and how awesome to share that with DS! DD was at creche when we had ours...no doubt she would of started trying to rip apart the room though so probably was a blessing in disguise lol!
and awesome awesome news that your Aunty can help out with DS during the labour and birth. so nice to know that there is outlet for him if he gets a bit worried/bored/cranky etc. i am that my mum makes it down in time (she lives in QLD). otherwise we have had 2 sets of neighbours offer to watch her. but i would LOVE for her to be close enough that when baby was being born she could be there IYKWIM.
Marcellus: no doubt it is an anterior placenta...i was suprised as many of us in the belly buddies group have anterior placentas! i always thought that posterior was more common but am beginning to shift my thinking lol!
AFM: well Sue my midwife just left and we had a blast. as i mentioned she is a good friend and it was good to just catch up and talk about what happened with our mutual friend (who had the baby that needed help). i feel much better and calmer about things. she is also my calmbirth instructor so her voice and ways always are relaxing for me lol.
Her DD and my DD played 'midwives' and used the doppler and stethescope on eachother to 'listen to baby'....SO CUTE! (they are both 2.5 years old). just love having appts at home...so relaxing.
at your son hiding meow! DS saw a birthing scene on tv (you know the typical scream then out pops baby), so he has an idea of what happens. "mummy noisy. baby come out of mum's bum"
Great news that you Aunt will be there for your DS.
Awwww at those girls Cassius. how cute! sounds like your friend is a very handy one to have - midwife and calmbirth instructor!
Hi all, hope you're going well.
My midwife called today and I'm seeing her for the first time on the 20th (so long as noone decides to have a baby that day!). Yay.
just joined up, have been reading all the fantastic information on this site!
i am 15 weeks pregnant and am planning a homebirth.
I had an interview with a midwife about 4 weeks ago but things didnt go to plan,she didnt want to take me on as she felt i was too high risk and that i need to lose some weight before i have a home birth!..i found this a little bit strange, as im sure im not the first fat chick to try have a natural birth.
anyhow, i have another interview this saturday with another midwife, hoping that my motivation to lose a few kilos (which will help me in the long run) will sit okay with her.
i really hope that i can find a midwife to help me do this homebirth.
i have a fear/phobia of hospitals, each and every visit i have ever been to has been a negative experience for me. the most recent seeing my brother in a coma after a motorbike accident which left him a quadriplegic (feb 2008).
i promised myself i would never go in a hospital again!! I am also a person who tends to not take many drugs, not even panadol for a headache, i just dont like putting these things into my body. i find relaxation, and massage and a nice hot shower a way to deal with pain.
i just wanted to say thanks to all you ladies on this forum, who have given me comfort. I find feel that i am not going to lose the weight in time for my homebirth, and that i will have to be rushed into hospital for a c section!!! i dont want this..AT ALL!! so this is why ive come to read some positivity.
My favorite thing to you tube is hypnobirth/calmbirth, its gives me energy and it makes me so excited to meet my baby (due christmas day this year) !!!
Ok, I'm officially talking to myself now. But I have a question
My midwife is apparently having to take some extended leave. I don't konw what hte story is but the fill-in midwife will be doing my apt. I'm slightly anxious now - part of the big attraction of this was having my own midwife. I'm sure that whatever has come up is very important and don't begrudge her this tiem out at all. But I'm kinda worrying that I'm hardly going to see her before the birth. Or what if something else comes up again later? I'll see what the other midwife says in 2 weeks time, but what do you reckon?
(It's preemptive stress I know since I'm not even 19 weeks yet)
Sorry not to have replied to your other posts!! I think it's fair to wonder what is happening with your care and what to expect for the rest of the pregnancy & the birth. Though I wouldn't stress yet. I saw my midwife ages ago and to save money we skipped any appointments in the second trimester as I'm going well and I wont see her for another 3 weeks still. It does feel like AGES between seeing her but your appointments get more frequent in the 3rd trimester so I think it'll be a good time to cover lots of ground and really prepare for the birth. I hope the appointment goes well with the replacement midwife and she can give you an idea of what is happening.
marcellus: i would think that it would be fine. Like meow said, the first and second tri appts are quite spaced out (4-6 weeks) and i too found it hard to know if we could get a good connection happening (we got along well, but you know that kinda connection that you want from an IM who will be welcoming this baby with you ITMS). i have found that since hitting the final trimester and our appts getting down to every 2 weeks has BEEN GREAT! simply seeing her more often has really helped solidify the relationship.
i reckon that if you feel a bit disconnected that you should organise (finances permitting of course) to just have her come over for an extra session, even if it is not a 'necessary' appt IYKWIM. sometimes just knowing that they can come and do that is enough to get things back on track.
AFM: well i had a similar moment as Marcellus today lol! i thought our appt was today, but forgot that she goes on holiday this week so just checked my diary and have to wait til next week...nooooo! i really look forward to these meetings, so am bummed (also bummed at my shocking memory for fooling me lol!).
Another to agree. In the first and 2nd trimester, appts seem so far and few between, but reality is that is no different to hospital appts. Maybe it is because we look forward to them so much because they are quality appointments rather than a cattle call that we miss them. But yes, in the 3rd trimester, they become much more frequent, which is great because it really starts to develop the birthing mind frame and help you get motivated to get your space together.
And how about the whole Danni saga..... I was so annoyed to see a couple of OB's come out a say "yeah, homebirth isn't safe, see she went to hospital" when to me, it is testament that planned homebirth is safe! Oh well, at least the people around me didn't question me about it or it would have been rant time!
THanks for the replies. I did like the fill-in midwife, but she isn't my backup. I haven't met my primary or backup yet, but I do still have lots of time.
I guess I'll just see how we go for now. I spose it's always a possibility that my primary midwife wouldn't be available at the end or somethign anyway. I'm sure I'll feel better once I've actually gotten to know my midwife... or any midwife... I guess I feel like I'm just hanging at the moment, but perhaps that's pretty normal at this stage of the pregnancy. All very boring and normal.
I hae it when I get dates wrong like that Cassius! Especially when it's something I'm looking forward to.
Hope you're all travelling well.
totally agree that in a way it is nice to know the 'whole' team ITMS. cause there is always a possibility that there is a birth-a-thon and you might miss out on your primary midwife lol! this is why i insisted with DH that we go to our 'meet the midwives' nights that our organisation has, simply cause i wanted to at least have laid eyes on some of the team and get a feel for the overall vibe. have to say that i am pretty comfy with having any of them, but of course i still that Nicola makes it lol!
Funnily enough, the thing that works the best is hydrotherapy with warm baths a second, so I see it as a sign this bub is a water baby.
so exciting! i also need to 'let go' and surrender to this birth process, come what may. but man it aint easy, especially when i have the PTSD thingy to contend with urgh...but Nicola is so awesome and calm and confident that i am always left feeling really awesome after visits.
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that my mum makes it down in time (she lives in QLD). otherwise we have had 2 sets of neighbours offer to watch her. but i would LOVE for her to be close enough that when baby was being born she could be there IYKWIM.
at your son hiding meow! DS saw a birthing scene on tv (you know the typical scream then out pops baby), so he has an idea of what happens. "mummy noisy. baby come out of mum's bum"
so just checked my diary and have to wait til next week...nooooo! i really look forward to these meetings, so am bummed (also bummed at my shocking memory for fooling me lol!).
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