Homebirth General Discussion #2

[Cassius2]

Especially when pre labour feels like early labour but then stops.

i hear ya on this one! i NEVER had pre-labour with DD so had very little idea of what it was...then last night had 3 hours of it . about 1.5 hours in i realised that it wasnt ramping up and it dawned on me that this was the storm in the pre-labour tea cup...wow...

hope this bubba is in your arms soon babe xx

[~kaos~]

Oh lovely to hear we have some mumma's so close Birth blessing to you. I hope that you can embrace the pre-labour, just think of it as work that is being done that hopefully you won't have to do later (that coming from someone who has never had the days of pre-labour...)

I feel like I'm in my mid pregnancy lull too. I'm 28 weeks now, so I guess I'm 3rd Trimester - wooohooo! Starting to feel the time pressure that soon we will have another baby in the house, that I need to get the house decluttered and sorted, the freezer filled, some walls painted (particularly where I think my birth space will be). Nesting anyone.

I've start active birth yoga, and started listening to hypnobabies CD's. It getting me in the right frame of mind. I really want to put effort into preparing that way, last birth I really struggled with the mental AND physical pain, especially around transition. In my previous two births it was usually just a bit of a mental hurdle for me to get over. I think part of the problem with my last birth was I started getting frustrated and cranky as I went into transition, and this amplified the pain. I really need to focus on calm and relaxed

I'm due for another MW appt soon and I'm really looking forward to it. My MW is really awesome, the perfect fit for me

[Arimeh]

Congrats to Antheia on the birth of your gorgeous boy!!! woohoo!!!

Nothing happening here... passed a quarter of the way there I suppose.... supposed to have my blood tests but not really wanting to cos I hate needles.. LOL... not seeing my middie until 16 weeks, so I sorta don't even feel pregnant!

[Cassius2]

WAHOO TO ANTHEIA!!!!! i guess all the pre-labour coulda been early labour!! so happy and thrilled for you

[Eenee]

Just had the worst experience seeing the ob (was my last appt with her and to inform her of me having a homebirth, and get referral things that I may need later on). Anyway she was so mean, made me cry. Basically told me she doesn't support it and if I have a homebirth I will probably die or my baby. Then said how irresponsible it was of my midwife to let someone who has had 2 miscarriages and took awhile to get pregnant to have a homebirth. And then said (because i'm on aspirin- which I will stop somewher in 3rd tri) that i'll bleed heaps, basically trying to scare me. Then quized me thinking the midwife had pushed me into it, and asking me how many birth's has she attended etc. etc. Then asking me why I wanted to birth at home, I told her was because I had a bad experience at the hospital in the passed (and of course many other reasons, but heck I wasn't wanting to waste my breath). She wanted me to go into details, but not like I was going to get into that with her. Then I just started crying, but desperately trying to hold the tears back (which I manged to stop until I got into the car). Now she wants me to see another OB for a second opinion about having a homebirth, I just don't know what to do I don't want another lecture. And my midwife is overseas for a month at the moment so not like I can talk to her yet. Now i've started crying again. Sorry you girls probably would have been able to handle this but I wasn't, i'm just so upset.

[onthefly]

Oh em That OB is full of crap. And how awful to tell you that you or your baby will die!!!!
Do you need the OB for this, or can you go to a GP? Perhaps if you ask around you can find a more supportive doctor.
For what it's worth, we needed IVF to conceive, I'm on aspirin also and have a thyroid condition, and had a largish baby by foreceps last time and no problemo getting a home birth - I'm low risk.
At the very least, if you do have to go back, perhaps you could take your DH or someone along for moral support?

Wow Antheia, congratulations. Will have to go and find the BA.

[Alina0210]

Marcellus - congratulations on your pregnancy, and YAY yor going to have a homebirth. that's so exciting. I just had another DD at home 11days ago, she was 10lb 4oz and only a 1.5hr labour...

Em.... So sorry that ur Ob was an idiot. I had to get 'approval' from an Ob to have a homebirth as I was sent for a ultrasound to check fluid/size of baby because midwives were concerned... I had 2 different Obs try and scare me into having a hospital birth, because one Ob was concerned of bleeding risk and he other kept mentioning shoulder dysocia. Argh. Luckily
I had a good back up of people i could call on to get advice and there was no way in hell I was having a hospital birth. Turns out I did have some excessive bleeding at the birth (700mls appx) but my midwives managed it quickly and easily and it was such a non issue. My midwife actually went back to the Ob at hospital and bragged how well it went LOL.