Congrats to Antheia on the birth of your gorgeous boy!!! woohoo!!!
Nothing happening here... passed a quarter of the way there I suppose.... supposed to have my blood tests but not really wanting to cos I hate needles.. LOL... not seeing my middie until 16 weeks, so I sorta don't even feel pregnant!
Just had the worst experience seeing the ob (was my last appt with her and to inform her of me having a homebirth, and get referral things that I may need later on). Anyway she was so mean, made me cry. Basically told me she doesn't support it and if I have a homebirth I will probably die or my baby. Then said how irresponsible it was of my midwife to let someone who has had 2 miscarriages and took awhile to get pregnant to have a homebirth. And then said (because i'm on aspirin- which I will stop somewher in 3rd tri) that i'll bleed heaps, basically trying to scare me. Then quized me thinking the midwife had pushed me into it, and asking me how many birth's has she attended etc. etc. Then asking me why I wanted to birth at home, I told her was because I had a bad experience at the hospital in the passed (and of course many other reasons, but heck I wasn't wanting to waste my breath). She wanted me to go into details, but not like I was going to get into that with her. Then I just started crying, but desperately trying to hold the tears back (which I manged to stop until I got into the car). Now she wants me to see another OB for a second opinion about having a homebirth, I just don't know what to do I don't want another lecture. And my midwife is overseas for a month at the moment so not like I can talk to her yet. Now i've started crying again. Sorry you girls probably would have been able to handle this but I wasn't, i'm just so upset.
Oh em That OB is full of crap. And how awful to tell you that you or your baby will die!!!!
Do you need the OB for this, or can you go to a GP? Perhaps if you ask around you can find a more supportive doctor.
For what it's worth, we needed IVF to conceive, I'm on aspirin also and have a thyroid condition, and had a largish baby by foreceps last time and no problemo getting a home birth - I'm low risk.
At the very least, if you do have to go back, perhaps you could take your DH or someone along for moral support?
Wow Antheia, congratulations. Will have to go and find the BA.
Marcellus - congratulations on your pregnancy, and YAY yor going to have a homebirth. that's so exciting. I just had another DD at home 11days ago, she was 10lb 4oz and only a 1.5hr labour...
Em.... So sorry that ur Ob was an idiot. I had to get 'approval' from an Ob to have a homebirth as I was sent for a ultrasound to check fluid/size of baby because midwives were concerned... I had 2 different Obs try and scare me into having a hospital birth, because one Ob was concerned of bleeding risk and he other kept mentioning shoulder dysocia. Argh. Luckily
I had a good back up of people i could call on to get advice and there was no way in hell I was having a hospital birth. Turns out I did have some excessive bleeding at the birth (700mls appx) but my midwives managed it quickly and easily and it was such a non issue. My midwife actually went back to the Ob at hospital and bragged how well it went LOL.
Hi Alina and congratulations on the birth of your daughter! She was a good size - I told DH I'm aiming for a 10-pounder this time
Glad you were able to manage the OB problem well.
Oh, I'm getting behind in here- great to see so much HB chat!!
Congratulations to our recent HBing mums!!! Yay Antheia and Alina!! I hope the early milky days are going well
I had to go to the doctor this morning for my iron blood test referral. Damn laws that midwives can't refer blood tests! I can't believe they made the laws so that midwives CAN refer tests- but with doctor's "collaboration". Erm- so you still have to go to the doctor and nothing is changed? I always approach these conversations with the mindset that HB is the default option so I don't offer anymore info than asked for... it went something like...
Doc: Who are you seeing?
Me: Helen B
Doc: Where do you see her?
Me: At home
Doc: (something about why she hasn't requested this test for me)
Me: She's a midwife, she can't refer blood tests.
With all the who-hah about collaboration he didn't say anything and I wonder if it sunk in a little for him. He charged me a super low fee which I presume I'll get back from medicare so good on him for recognising that I only went to him because I *had* to and not for his care.
My last appointment actually didn't go so well with my midwife. I've not been wanting to say it out loud but I think there was too long between appointments and she forgot some stuff I had told her in the booking in appointment which I think is relevant to how she cares for me and understands so I don't feel good about that. I'm going to chat to her next week though and see if we can get back on track as we really did connect well at the first appointment. I need her to know me and I need to actually start talking to her about my 'issues' so I feel we've worked on that and I'm ready for the birth.
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i guess all the pre-labour coulda been early labour!! so happy and thrilled for you
I always approach these conversations with the mindset that HB is the default option so I don't offer anymore info than asked for... it went something like...
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