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Kelbell, my MW is about 2.5 hours away form me and we are preparing for the possibility that I might birth without her. I will be having a chat with my doula abouthow she feels about thatl.she has attended sveeral freebirths. I totlly get what you are saying about ambulance officers. I would call them if something went wrong.
That's why I had a hb with my 3rd as it was going to be quick, my Mw trained DH and I what we should do and most importantly said trust my body to do what it wanted. We ended up free birthing as she didnt make it and an ambulance was never suggested or called. This pregnancy the midwife has reassured me she won't miss the birth, she said she is happy for a million false alarms the week leading up to bubs (as that's what I do) she said she was just happy to keep coming for long cups of tea and sleeps on my lounge. But in saying that she is very causal about me just birthing the bub by myself and has never mentioned an ambulance.... I'm having my 'birth' planning meeting in the next few weeks so we'll see if its mentioned then...
-2012-
Jennifer13- Baby GIRL born at home 4th January 2012
Bella29- Baby GIRL born at home 10th January 2012
HotI - Baby BOY born at home 21st January 2012
*Ash*- Baby BOY born at home 14th February 2012
loulabelle - Baby BOY born at home 24th February 2012
Cricket - Baby GIRL born at home 15th May 2012
chocorama - May 2012
...Em - Baby BOY born at home 7th June 2012
BellyBelly - Baby GIRL born 11th August 2012
Tanya - Baby BOY born at home 16th August 2012
phynna - Baby GIRL born at home 8th September 2012
lady_neon - Baby BOY born 27th September 2012
Ambersky - Baby BOY born at home 3rd October 2012
Cassius - Baby GIRL born at home 4th November 2012
Ice cream - September 2012
mirriumu - November 2012
Pumpkinzulu - Baby GIRL born at home 12th December 2012
- 2013 -
Sara - Baby BOY born 18th January 2013
turtlejane - Baby GIRL born at home 31st January 2013
Bellany - Baby BOYS born 14th March 2013
Ree*Ree - Baby BOY born 18th March 2013
Aimz - Baby BOY born at home 21st March 2013
Beatrix - Baby GIRL born at home 7th April 2013
Rubyshoes - Baby BOY born at home April 2013
Dollyroux - Baby BOY and GIRL born 29th April 2013
HomeStyleMumma - Baby GIRL born 8th May 2013
ladybirdflies - Baby GIRL born at home 23rd May 2013
Cricket - Baby BOY born at home 26th August 2013
Sepata - Baby BOY born at home 31st August 2013
WilliamsMummy -Baby BOY born at home 17th September 2013
Loulabelle - Baby BOY born at home 17th September 2013
Sunnylove - Baby GIRL born at home 2nd November 2013
DotFace - Baby BOY born at home 9th November 2013
Eenee - Baby BOY born at home 22nd November 2013
TeniBear - Baby GIRL born at home 21st December 2013
*The_Mrs.* - Baby GIRL born at home 31st December 2013
-2014-
Jennifer13 - Baby GIRL born at home 1st January 2014
Arcadia - Baby BOY born at home 30th January 2014
Special - Baby BOY born at home 6th February 2014
HotI - Baby GIRL born at home 23rd February 2014
Smoke Jaguar - Baby GIRL born at home 18th March 2014
Bella29 - Baby BOY born at home 13th May 2014
Ozstar - Baby GIRL born at home 20th May 2014
Sterla - Baby GIRL born at home 30th July 2014
Meow - Baby GIRL born at home 26th August 2014
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ladybug - September
Tegam - September
phyrephly - September
kellbell - September
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My m/ws didn't make it to DD3's birth but I made DP hang up on 000. Lol I didn't want them coming, my m/ws were on their way and on the ph. I trusted that a fast birth would be a good birth and we were fine. My m/w sent a closer m/w to get to me ASAP. My doula also arrived very soon after the birth. As long as I knew they were coming I felt okay. Poor DP wasn't, but he did what I said and got through it.
If I have another I will have my primary m/w again but a much closer m/w as well. I had two m/ws for both of my previous HBs but clearly I need someone who can get here in about 15 mins, not 45.
I will also be calling my m/w to come as soon as cx start! I won't be riding out 'early labour' waiting for things to get serious.
I cannot get my head around a birth being so quick! You ladies rock! My labour with DD was 36 hours from first contraction to her being out! As a result, my midwife has never mentioned anything about what to do if she didn't make it in time haha!
There are so many variables, Sterla. My best birth emotionally was not the fastest. And I know which one DP preferred!
Every birth is it's own achievement and journey. I am inspired by mamas who work hard at birth to achieve the best outcome for themselves and their babies. I love reading birth stories of all kinds. Women are amazing!
I have had quite a few MWs raise concerns about making it to this birth. It's because we live on the border of two "regions" and most of them either live right up north or way down south of us and there is TERRIBLE commuter traffic here so they could actually have a hard time getting to us quickly and given it's our third they're all aware it may be speedy. But I've had a fair bit of heads up of early labour and progression before so this time around we'll likely call them to come in earlier labour than we have before.
AFM... still unsure Sterla. I wish I had an obvious connection to one MW over the other. The first one we communicated really well and I felt very confident in her competence and experience in this area. Her knowledge of all the hospitals, resources etc is very strong and I find that very reassuring in case of transfer or needing medical care at any time as we don't know the area or the American system as well and I think making sure we're supported in that way would be a good thing.
The second MW has perhaps a more 'earth mama hippie' kind of vibe which I really connected with. She exudes calm and love and all the spiritual stuff I was looking for. But for all that I'm having trouble knowing for sure if her 'trust in women' is really that solid because my previous MW 'trusted women' too but seemed to lack confidence in anything slightly off the norm. She could be nothing like my previous MW but do have some fears of "what she ends being like that?". She told me she watches all of Lisa Barrett's youtube videos which I thought was pretty cool.
I guess I feel like the play it safe side of me is leaning towards the first MW but then I'm a sad to let this wonderful crunchy MW go!
Well, I've just chosen the first MW. I don't think I'll still feel settled over all this until I start having real appointments with her. Ugh. Hate how much one mess up can do your head in and it has me second guessing everything!
That's awesome meow. To be honest, it sounded like she was the better fit for you, just from how you described her. I hope that she turns out to be everything you need.
Thanks xx I feel excited to see her and get going and I think I would have felt a bit anxious still with the second one so I'm sure it's the right choice. I've always sort of got straight to it and told her heaps while chatting so far so I think she's going to be a good fit.
Sorry i didnt reply earlier...i reckon you have made the right choice. but this is my personal perspective only that it really is a requirment that the MW i work with has a good understanding and knowledge of the hospital system as if i were to transfer or need their services i dont want to be the one exploring it all and organising it all ITMS. i want my MW for that to protect me from them at my most vulnerable moment. when i did have to go in twice this last pg it was super awesome because Nic did all the calling for me
Sterla: 36 hours is a champion effort! I am in the position where for DD3 I quietly wished for slower birth after DD2. DD2s birth was perfect and gorgeous but it went too fast and i wanted to hang on to some of that fun...i kinda got my wish 3rd time around with an extra 15 minutes
Yep, I totally agree with you Cassius. We have had healthy pregnancies and labours thus far so I don't envision needing to transfer but if I did that's when I REALLY need the MW. So I wanted the one I had most confidence in in the most serious cases IYKWIM. Even the littler things like needing a good LC or something- this one has been around the area so long she knows them all and knows the best and I trust she can make me excellent referrals. And she's still very crunchy with her homeopathics and all that stuff. I certainly don't need someone to Kum ba yah next to the birth pool so personally the crunchiness only needed to go so far.
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