Homebirth General Discussion #22

[ladybirdflies]

I am due end of May

Thanks for the answer Lady bug

Ladybirdflies. I know how busy you are hun Thankyou.

DH is home now. I brought up having a homebirth. He straight away said no and money was not the reason. He said what if something goes wrong, an ambulance would take over 20min and that he would not know what to do. He thought a home birth was all by yourself When I explained that it was with 2 midwives he relaxed straight away.

I told him why I wanted to have a HB and I think he has come around. I am going to organise meeting 2 MW that I like just from communications so far.

So far so good. We started telling people yesterday. I hate that the first thing they say is 'Again' Makes me want to keep it to myself longer

I am thrilled that DH totally heard where you are in this decision, how wonderful, what a great start to a HB together!!!
I am sorry to hear that people have such insensitive responses, unfortunately it happens more and more with each baby... People couldn't believe we actually tried to have a fourth not just a whoopsie!! I know what you mean about keeping that secret a bit longer, it's like something sacred is lost when people dribble unconscious words on this gift.. luckily BB mama's are supportive and excited with you!!



Freya... I am so excited that your hubby is supportive about your provider change!! THese midwives have an incredible amount of experience and can be so clued into the subtle changes they can predict needing extra help, it's fascinating!!! I have four girls, and the gender talk did my head in by her due date, even now people can't believe I have four girls... How is everyone going re trying to guess if you are having a girl or a boy? I found the comments about her gender one of the hardest parts!!

[Freya]

We know its another boy so yeah, its been utterly ridiculous the comments we get. Im really struggling to connect with bub and just enjoy this pregnancy as it is so having people be rude about it sucks. We've had a rough year so that doesnt help either. If we could of had a girl we would have, all of us were hoping for one but we dont control what we get. I think Im struggling the most with the sense of letting people down, the kids were pretty upset that it wasn't a sister

[ladybirdflies]

We know its another boy so yeah, its been utterly ridiculous the comments we get. Im really struggling to connect with bub and just enjoy this pregnancy as it is so having people be rude about it sucks. We've had a rough year so that doesnt help either. If we could of had a girl we would have, all of us were hoping for one but we dont control what we get. I think Im struggling the most with the sense of letting people down, the kids were pretty upset that it wasn't a sister

I really get what you mean Freya, I would struggle with what others said if we went for a fifth child, it's not just friends but strangers in the street, one guy laughed at me, my older girls were so confused about people and their attitudes, my eldest asked what is wrong with having so many children of the same gender, she felt like they were saying there was something wrong with girls!! A friend recently had her fifth boy, she didn't find out his gender before birth but she did have a big process around it. She went to some 'healer' type people and got to really delve into her feelings about it and at the end of the weekend (she was at a birth workshop) she really surrendered to him being a boy, it was quite beautiful to she her grieve about it and of course she absolutely loves him to bits now... and he is wearing a bit of pink that she had been saving each time she had a baby!!!! I hope you feel supported to talk about your feelings, feel free to PM or voice it here! xx

[HotI]

Homebirth was less stress for my partner. Didn't have to worry about when to leave home, what if something happened on the way etc. No one telling him what he could or couldn't or should or shouldn't do. No need to be protector, bc the birth support people were ones we chose, people we were comfortable with. His jobs were more simple, and hands on - fill the birth pool etc and then chill with me until baby arrived.

[meow]

After we avoided transfer with our unexpected freebirth my husband was the one who couldn't stop gushing about how good it was that we got to stay home. It obviously was a huge relief to him too to be snuggled up at home in bed with all of us together and well

[turtledove]

Hello!! I'm new here

Long time reader of belly belly, but just decided to sign up as I have a few questions I'd love to chat about with like minded ladies

Hubby & I live in WA, and I am 36 weeks pregnant with our first baby. (Due date 8th December)

We are planning a homebirth on the CMP, and so far have been very happy with the program. For us the policies have been more of a safety net to know that we are low risk and safe, especially for hubby as homebirth was quite a big shift from previous thinking. He's completely on board now though, and gets quite fired up if someone suggests that it is "scary!"

Now in the final stages of making decisions & preparations. I noticed that sometime ago there was a discussion on the Vit K injection. Was in meow or bella researching that? Where did you get to? I've read all I can on it, and am only more confused than ever. What did you ladies decide to do with that one?

[Tegam]

Hi ladies. You have been chatting. Putting my hand in the air and joining the support group for people's stupid comments! I kept my pregnancy quiet until 20weeks for this reason. Love my big family!

Welcome turtledove! I think I was involved in the vit k chat too. We don't do it. I'll see if I can find my research links for you.