Em: i shared my birth montage via a private youtube link. Meow got me onto it (i think!) where you can post it as a private thingo (so only those with access to the link can view it).
Arte: oh dear . Marta didnt even notice, she just slept (like a baby ).
HotI: we also had some pretty mega name dramas. had no idea what to call DD2. in the end we went back to basics and went through our memory of names that we have heard along the way and remembered our fav show 'arrested development' and it all went from there.
Ozzie: I too had pretty bad muscle separation this time. i wish i had of taken the advice of one of my belly buddies and gotten the band thingy. I got it quite bad with DD1, but it seemed to heal quickly back into place, whereas this time, nada. i am not sure how or if it will TBH
Bella29:So exciting! I’m loving the kicks and tumbles so much I don’t even mind needing to wake up in the night to go to the loo because I hop back into bed and get to fall back asleep feeling bub kicking away
HotI: yep – my/our IM can do the heel ***** test at home – when I asked about it she said she usually waits until the baby is a few days old so they’re well hydrated which can help with their pain/discomfort.
I have no idea about a hearing test – to be honest I haven’t heard about doing it so now I have a question to ask mw tomorrow!!
I’m doing birth classes with Di Diddle in North Fitzroy – I’ve heard lots of good things about them, and they were also the closet to us in terms of travel, and the most affordable of the independent classes I could find online. I can PM you her website if you like?
Beansbeans! – Welcome aboard!!!
All the women with muscle separation – I’m thinking of you! It sounds painful
I went to my sister-in-law's baby shower last weekend - she is due one week before me. She can be quite competitive so I was anxious that my being there would be a little awkward if there were comparisons etc etc when I really wanted for the day to be about her, and was also nervous that I might cop some negative comments about planning a homebirth. I decided to just be honest about it if people asked - a few did, I told them our plans and they were so positive and supportive it was such a confidence booster! The only person who was less than positive was my sister-in-law but I kind of expected that and she was at least polite (I was pretty surprised she didn't already know because we've talked about it quite a bit with both of our families).
Hi...Warning! I think this will be long and it will be all about me and my sorry tale.
I am feeling so disheartened. I just spoke to the midwife recommended to me by the last midwife who wouldn't 'take me on'! This one won't take me on either. I told her where I live (45 mins drive from her) and she said she was concerned that I was too far away. Then when she heard it was my 4th baby, and that my last baby was born in 3 hours, she expressed concern that she would not make it in time. She also said that she is having trouble at the moment finding 'back-up' midwives - and she only likes to work with back-up. She mentioned that our local base hospital (5 mins drive from me) is considering a homebirth program. But apparently, they have been considering it for nearly a year! And I would probably have to be booked in to their caseload/community midwifery program to get access to the homebirth program if it 'suddenly' started up.
The last three midwives that I have spoken too have been worried about the distance 'issue'. They are all having trouble finding 'back-up' midwives for the dates that they need them. The town I live in is the largest town in this region. I just can't believe that there are no midwives in my town anymore. I know over a dozen women who have homebirthed in my area over the last 8 years. It is not uncommon here - or, it wasn't uncommon. The current political climate is just so horrendous at the moment - so many have dropped out.
Oh crap, I don't know what to do now I am pretty sure that DH would not feel comfortable with us freebirthing. Our third child was covered in meconium when he was born (my waters broke right at the end of labour) and DH told me later that he totally panicked and thought our bub was in trouble. He said that it was such a relief to have the midwives there. I don't know if i would feel comfortable freebirthing. Could I? I'm not sure. I assume that it is something I have to be completely sure about. I don't think I know enough about what to do after the bub is born!
I don't know who else to contact - my list of contacts and 'leads' has run dry!
A midwife from the community midwifery program at the local hospy called me back, and said that it was a shame I hadn't contacted them sooner because I was 'perfect' for their program. She has put me on the waiting list. It is not my preferred option. It sounds better than the 'general' hospy program though.
I feel sad that this little bubba may not be born at home. How long can I go on hoping that I will find a midwife? At some stage I will have to just accept that it may not happen, and move on.
Regarding the heel pr!ck test, both my homebirthed bubs had their heel pr!ck tests done at home by our midwife. Neither of them had the hearing test.
Hello to everyone, and thank you so much for the support that you have given me.
I came in here tonight to update and say pretty much exactly what you have written. The midwife I went to see pretty much said she would take us on but was highly doubtful of making the birth due to distance. But she would talk dh through it on the phone. we decided against going with her, our leads have run out. We are in the same situation.
Feels so much more normal too at the HB get together, than when I'm at the prenatal aqua class at the private hospital and all the talk is about who your ob is and whether or not you're being induced. It's really empowering to feel like your birth is really yours, not at the say-so of a medical system.
Last edited by Jennifer13; October 28th, 2011 at 11:52 AM.
Jen, you remind me that I should really go to the local HB meet up. IT is about 45 mins away which is why I have been slack. Really should do it though.
Had a meeting with my MW on Thursday. That was really good. It's nice to get to know her more and more. We both think the same about birth and have the same values. I cooked us both lunch and we had that between chatting and looking at my past birth notes. she couldn't see anything in them that would prevent me from having a VBAC and actually said she thinks that once my body did start to dilate, that it did it pretty quickly. So all of that is good. Not that I expected her to say anything differently! But yeah, also had chats with my doula this week and my DD's doula and feel really positive. I am going to be surrounded by such love, support and positive belief.
I have told DH not to book annual leave till I am about 42-43 weeks, cos I don't want him sitting staring at me, waiting for me to go into labour and we will work out what to do if I go earlier. Not that I want to go prior to 40 weeks cos then it would be really close to Christmas.
I am 29 weeks now. Had an appt with my midwife this week and everything is good. The fundal height is measuring a bit bigger, but could be due to my tummy muscles not holding everything in fully. Bub is lying across my tummy, not sure which end is head and which is bottom though.
I saw a chiro, and it has helped a bit with the sciatica. Have another chiro appt this week, so hopefully they will help bit more. He also said that my pelvis was a bit twisted so hopefully we can fix that up before the birth too. I also got a new pair of bathers so when our local pool opens back up again i am looking forward to doing some laps and stretching out in the water. Will be fun to take my DD swimming too.
I have been looking for a room divider or privacy screen (or one to make) so i can room off the birth pool area a bit more. I saw a gorgeous one on e-bay but it was in sydney so no good for me.
MY copy of "Hello Baby" arrived- such a gorgeous book! DD has been a bit destructo this week, so she hasn't really had a look yet but i think it will be nice for her and new bub over the years anyway- even if it doesn't have much impact before bub arrives.
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