Homebirth General Discussion #6

[HotI]

Not ready to go into it, but had an appt at the family birth centre today, that totally absolutely made me realise that birthing in hospital, any hospital, even if they sometimes pretend they aren't one is not right for me.

to anyone needing it right now.

[Arcadia]

to you HotI. We're here listening when you need.

[e_p]

Not ready to go into it, but had an appt at the family birth centre today, that totally absolutely made me realise that birthing in hospital, any hospital, even if they sometimes pretend they aren't one is not right for me.

to anyone needing it right now.

Oh HotI - I'm sorry hugs to you!

[Cassius2]

Not ready to go into it, but had an appt at the family birth centre today, that totally absolutely made me realise that birthing in hospital, any hospital, even if they sometimes pretend they aren't one is not right for me.

to anyone needing it right now.

I hear you loud and clear HotI. I too found that was the case. i checked out the Mercy BC in person (ended up in massive panic attack before i even got back in the car...can you believe that i brought DH and DD1 with me, and she was playing in the kids section with the toys and the midwife told me that they dont like siblings attending appointments and can she please leave as others dont want to be distracted ...i was ready to walk out then and there but DH insisted i stay...wish he didnt it was just awful as they LOCKED him out and he missed it all ...the midwife had the nerve to tell me, that it's not important for him to be there and i could just explain it all later to him anyway..WTF??!!). and then i double dipped and booked into the Box Hill one, which admittedley in the end i didnt bother with as the forms and questions were too similar and clinical and basically had similar policy in being able to 'kick' you out of the program at any time. That's when i finally (at 15 weeks i think) faced the reality that the ONLY option was HB...and boy, what a beautiful, happy discovery it was! it is now the ONLY option because IMHO it is the BEST.

Massive hugs i remember how dark those days of traipsing around looking at those places.... not fun.

[HotI]

Cassius, i am sorry that you went through it too, but you are also a bright light for me knowing that it can be ok again.

[Tegam]

HotI wish i could explain more but please write down the way you are feeling now. I felt like this atleast 15times with Molly, even DH said twice that we were not setting foot into the place again and i still ****ed up and had molly in hospital and that was after a beautiful HB with DS two years before.... the system suxs but it has a horrible way of wearing you down..... promise yourself and stick to your guns! We are all here for you!!!!

[Jennifer13]

Woohoo, happy birthday to Marta and happy birthing day to you, Cassius! I think an honorary viewing of your HB video is in order.

Nothing new to report here, this is a very boring stage of pg and birth preparation!