I got my first 'you are brave' comment today (for choosing homebirth). i kind of just brushed it off, talked about positives of it, but gonna have a think about what i would say next time.
Earlier in the week when someone asked me why, i said 'cos i was assaulted in hospital last time, and prefer to stay home and be safe'. i was kinda proud of that, but i don't feel the need to share that info with everyone, it was more specific to the person i was talking to.
I wouls also like to put it out that there that at the moment i think you are all crazy for being sad you may not be giving birth again. I love the baby at the end, and i know my first birth wasn't that good (and i hope i change my mind) but currently i see birth just as something to go through to get the baby at the end.
(Actually now i write that out, i was excited before my DDs birth- maybe i will feel that excitement again)
HotI: that's kinda how I approached it all when pg with DD2. Th emost that i hoped for was a supportive birth environment and a happy baby and mum afterwards.
I had NO idea of the absolute joy that was awaiting us when i did go into labour. That is exactly how i can describe my second birth experience. just joyous. laughter and light. In that moment i realised what it was that all those HB mummas go on about (i'm thinking Mayaness et al lol...i remember her saying how much she loved birthing and i didnt get what she meant until i experienced it myself!). that is what is so frikkin' cool about having a HB is that the environment is just right. it allows for all the right combination of hormones to kick in and wow, that oxytocin - the hormone of love - really is a beautiful thing!
Change of speaker for the Maternity Coalition Movie Night- New speaker is Gaye Demanuele (Independent Midwife)
I have my tickets, a mate from work is coming with me. She is also trying to woo me so she can be official photographer at my birth. Although, she lost a few points when she said she was good at 'zoom'.
Who is going?
Cassius, yeah i hope i can read back here next year and see how my thoughts have changed.
HotI, after all the planning, stress and waiting etc, it is such an enormous high when everything goes right, when it all unfolds as you hoped or better and it is such an amazing feeling that it really does make you want to do it again. When DD1 was born I was soooo happy with how it had all gone, how little pain there was, how she just came out with basically no help from me - just my body doing everything so naturally. It made me want to do it again just to have the feeling of elation after a perfect birth. I was sad that I wouldn't have that again. Then #3 decided to join us. I didn't really get the rush this time - much longer and harder labour but it was still a great birth and it is really nice not to have the 'what ifs' and a list a mile long of things you would like to change (like I did with DS).
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