Homebirth General Discussion #6

[Eenee]

Arte how lovely!!


Better add me to the list for May

[HotI]

Babies Arrived

~Stoked~- August

Pip82 - September

Artechim - September


Babies On Their Way

eutra_phalia - November

Brogeybear- November

Bella29 - January

Jennifer13 - January

HotI - January

*Ash*- February

loulabelle - February

Sara - May

...Em - May

[~Stoked~]

Woo! Em!! Congratulations

[~Stoked~]

Thanks everyone. Went really well. Kids both slept all night which was ideal, but baby wasn't out before morning but it was all good - DH went out and did the normal morning stuff, the kids came in for the odd visit to see where I was and then the midwife called DH in for the actual birth which was only a couple of minutes and the kids were unaware out in the lounge. When everything was sorted and I was ready we took her out to meet her siblings. Really, really happy with how it all went.
I ended up having the off-sider midwife but I have had quite a few appointments with her because I have been having iron shots every two days for the last couple of weeks. She was perfect! She just sat quietly and let me do my thing. All decisions were made together and I didn't feel any pressure to do anything.

So glad to hear! It sounds beautiful! I want to do it again! I'm really struggling with the fact that Zac is supposed to be my last..

[*Ash*]

Oh Stoked, I am worried that I will feel the same way after this bub is born.

Congratulations em

[Cassius2]

Better add me to the list for May

Whaaattttt???!!!! OMG! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!



aw man, now i am jealous hahahahaha! you go girl!

[Eenee]

Thanks girls, we hadn't used any contraception since DD was born given how long it took to conceive her we though we would just leave it to chance, and didn't think considering DD is such a frequent feeder that I'd get pregnant this soon, but am ever so glad we did so happy just hoping little one sticks around. Can't wait to have another homebirth!

[Jennifer13]

Congrats Em!!

[HotI]

I got my first 'you are brave' comment today (for choosing homebirth). i kind of just brushed it off, talked about positives of it, but gonna have a think about what i would say next time.

Earlier in the week when someone asked me why, i said 'cos i was assaulted in hospital last time, and prefer to stay home and be safe'. i was kinda proud of that, but i don't feel the need to share that info with everyone, it was more specific to the person i was talking to.

I wouls also like to put it out that there that at the moment i think you are all crazy for being sad you may not be giving birth again. I love the baby at the end, and i know my first birth wasn't that good (and i hope i change my mind) but currently i see birth just as something to go through to get the baby at the end.

(Actually now i write that out, i was excited before my DDs birth- maybe i will feel that excitement again)

[Cassius2]

HotI: that's kinda how I approached it all when pg with DD2. Th emost that i hoped for was a supportive birth environment and a happy baby and mum afterwards.

I had NO idea of the absolute joy that was awaiting us when i did go into labour. That is exactly how i can describe my second birth experience. just joyous. laughter and light. In that moment i realised what it was that all those HB mummas go on about (i'm thinking Mayaness et al lol...i remember her saying how much she loved birthing and i didnt get what she meant until i experienced it myself!). that is what is so frikkin' cool about having a HB is that the environment is just right. it allows for all the right combination of hormones to kick in and wow, that oxytocin - the hormone of love - really is a beautiful thing!

[HotI]

Change of speaker for the Maternity Coalition Movie Night- New speaker is Gaye Demanuele (Independent Midwife)

I have my tickets, a mate from work is coming with me. She is also trying to woo me so she can be official photographer at my birth. Although, she lost a few points when she said she was good at 'zoom'.

Who is going?

Cassius, yeah i hope i can read back here next year and see how my thoughts have changed.

[Artechim]

HotI, after all the planning, stress and waiting etc, it is such an enormous high when everything goes right, when it all unfolds as you hoped or better and it is such an amazing feeling that it really does make you want to do it again. When DD1 was born I was soooo happy with how it had all gone, how little pain there was, how she just came out with basically no help from me - just my body doing everything so naturally. It made me want to do it again just to have the feeling of elation after a perfect birth. I was sad that I wouldn't have that again. Then #3 decided to join us. I didn't really get the rush this time - much longer and harder labour but it was still a great birth and it is really nice not to have the 'what ifs' and a list a mile long of things you would like to change (like I did with DS).

[loulabelle]

congratulations em!

Im having a bit of a freak out, probably prematurely because I'm not seeing the doc until monday.
I had a scan yesterday. I had hematoma early in this pg. it didnt concern me because I had one last time too and all was fine and it was gone by 13 weeks. The ultasound showed a very large bleed, about 3 times the size of the last bleed. Looking ay the position though I think its a new one. That scares me. Also I just had a look at the film and the she had taken a lot of pictures of my cervix and placenta, they look awful close to each other. Placenta looks as though its covering my cervix. The senographer was very vauge with me, and said I needed to speak to the doctor and that a repeat scan was necessary in two weeks. I know I shouldn't try and analyse the film, I'm not a professional. I wish I hadn't because I very may well be totally off the mark and now I'm scared.

This is my last child and I feel stupid for thinking this because if there is any problems of course having a healthy baby is my priority, but I'm scared that I won't be able to homebirth. This birth means so much to me, its my healing birth and I'm so scared its going tio be taken from me.

Sorry for the freak out, I just needed to let it out.

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[Bella29]

Oh loulabelle! So sorry to hear that you are scared. How far along ate you? I know that bleeds are more likely when the placenta is close to the cervix. That being said the lower section of the uterus only develops in the third trimester and generally it will move away. I hope that you get to see someone to explain it all to you really soon. On the otherwise of things a gf of mine attempted a hbac about 2 months ago. It ended in transfer and a cs (second birth like that for me in 2 months) but it was still a really healing birth for her. Mostly because she felt really supported in her choices. I hope that you can know deep in your heart that you can still have a healing birth regardless of how the baby comes out if it is done in a supportive manner. Xx Bella

[Cassius2]

Loulabelle: that would be a bit freaky xx Are you bleeding atm? Hopefully the Doc or your midwife can put your mind at ease and that the placenta will move away nicely in the coming weeks. bit of a bummer that it will have to be watched until it does move, but i am sending loads of happy placenta in great spot vibes!!

[onthefly]

I hope you have a totally different perspective after your birth HotI. No zooming at your birth then...?

Oh no Loula! I hope you get some clarity and good news on Monday. Are you still able to come to the meet?

[loulabelle]

Thanks guys, it felt good to write it out. I feel less stressed now. I'm just going to forget or at least try until I know more.

Still coming monday,appointment isnt until 2:30. Looking forward to meeting you madb.

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[Jennifer13]

Hi all

Had my m/w visit yesterday. Only one more and I'm down to fortnightly visits already. Can't believe how fast this is all going. All is looking very good, I'm measuring bang on for dates. And I have been right about DD2's position - she's been head down for weeks, very cooperatively. Her back is pointing outwards on my RHS, so no posterior bub. Clever girl! She hasn't changed position for weeks, so even though I know there's room, I have a feeling she's very settled in that spot, much like DD1 was for about half of the pg. It explains why the muscle on my RHS gets sorer than anywhere else too, it has the whole baby leaning on it.

My m/w brought over a whole heap of books and I'm half way through Ina May Gaskin's latest ed of Spiritual Midwifery. The birth stories are all in hippie speak, but great to read. Makes me feel completely normal for having a HB! My m/w went to the conference in Newcastle (last month, I think) where Ina May came to speak and was totally impressed with her. She had about half a dozen books for DD too, including Hello Baby, Runa's Birth (my fave) and a couple of others. DD has them by her bed and is reading them to herself each night.

Does anyone else feel like they're flying the flag for some kind of HB crusade? Word got around my prenatal aqua class that I go to at our local private hospital that I'm having a HB and I got heaps of questions. Some seemed really impressed and the others were just interested. So far I've only had a couple of "you're brave" type comments, so I just let them slide. I tell them I'm really excited about it and looking forward to seeing how it all goes.

DP and I were talking about his role last night and I used some of the things I'd read in Ina May Gaskin's book to give him some ideas on keeping the atmosphere light and that kind of thing. How did everyone else prepare their Hs/Ps? How did they go during your HB?