for us DH was at every appt at home. he also did the calmbirth course, read the books to DD, listened to me read interesting bits and bobs from my books and read right through 'birth without violence'. thankfully, he was on board 100% and was the one to insist the year before we got pg to go to the HB rally in canberra
But, that said, he was a bit nervous about his role and what to do, so we watched alot of inspiring birth vids on youtube that showed other partners doing wonderful jobs, just made the presence of partners normal ITMS. our midwife was also totally awesome in including him and just expecting him to be part of the process as well, which helped as he never felt he had to ask permission ITMS. we also were really lucky to have watched some docos on how male partners witnessing and being involved in the birth of their babies also then produce super high levels of oxytocin (the love hormone) and how this can assist in bonding with the baby and sending off the right smells etc etc. pretty cool IMHO!
During the really early labour (like when i thought it was just pre-labour or BH) he was super calm, but able to think a bit clearer than me, so was able to guage when to call the m/ws to give them heads up. he was totally awesome and calm for pretty much the whole time. the only time where he was momentarily lost (for all of 15 mins i reckon) was once i was in teh birth pool and in heavy labour and the midwives hadnt arrived. this was mostly because i was in labour land and was not wanting to be consciously present...so was off in calmbirth visualisation land. but within a few minutes of the m/ws arriving he was fine and relaxed and was able to come up to me and just sit and whisper sweet nothings into my ear
. was too slow and it had all sold out!! waahhhhhh 
pretty bummed about TBH. but that was my fault as i got super sick and didnt get my A into G.
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