Homebirth General Discussion #6

[Cassius2]

i spoke to a doula who told me she had never heard of women being assaulted during labour. mmm, then why do you think there is a role for private midwifes and doulas if the system is so good? she was a wierdo

maybe she was an OB infiltrator hahaha

i missed out . was too slow and it had all sold out!! waahhhhhh pretty bummed about TBH. but that was my fault as i got super sick and didnt get my A into G.

[Bella29]

For this birth I think DH will mostly stay out of the room and let me be cared for by my Doula and Midwife and friend. He has some major fear issues because of his background. He is really supportive of me personally even if he is less comfortable with the concept of home birth. He has however read all of the studies about home birth and conceptually understands and thinks that it is a safe option for us, but he spent 3 years working as an anaethetist and 18 months of that working in obstetric anaesthesia, so he has seen some really sad things and he would bring those sad and scary experiences with him into my space if he were allowed in the birthing room.

That being said I think that when the baby is actually being born he will come in and either hold me or catch the baby. Whichever is right in the moment.

Went and saw a local OB here yesterday to see if she would support us in case of need to transfer and it went pretty positively. I think she is willing to support us but it will be up to whether the rest of the OB's who could also be on call, are willing to accept part of my care given that they could be the ones to accept me. She said they have a meeting on Friday afternoons and then she would call me. Will see how that goes. I know she had 2 women in labour yest so I dont doubt that kept her busy. We will wait to hear back from her.

PS... I also can't understand a Doula not having come across that.... maybe she got into birth on the other end of the wagon, amongst all the women who love their OB's for the episiotomy they got that tightened up their lady bits and has never met a woman wronged..... With so many ppl becoming Doulas these days it isn't surprising that there are some weird ones in the mix... just like you get medwives and midwives I guess...

[Cricket]

Hey ladies! Just thought I'd pop in and say Hi! I'm pretty bad at keeping up with "buddy" type threads - don't have enough time to devote to it these days. But I wanted to just let you all know that I'm hoping for another home-birth with this baby (bub #6, hb#3, if all goes well) and wish my fellow homebirth mums all the best! I don't have any experience with the Aus system of midwives, insurance, etc. since I'm Canadian, but I can share my experiences with anyone who's wondering what a home birth is actually like, etc, and how DH and I felt about it.

Oh - just a side note about that doula HotI - is it possible she misunderstood what you meant by assault? As in, she thought you meant women being beaten by their doc in labour?