I think that both DH and thought (pre-kids and pre meeting IRL people that had HB) that HB was what other people did. we didnt give much thought to it or to the process or why they would go that route. For both DH and I the turning point came after watching 'the business of being born'. for the first time EVER i saw a birth take place (the african american family having their second baby) that matched my and DHs dreams and imaginings of how birth should be. Straightaway DH was all for a HB and mentioned quite a few times. it took me a bit longer, i thought that i could achieve that kind of 'zone' in a BC, but after doing a tour when i was 5 weeks pg i realised that was not going to happen. So we walked out and called an IM.
DH is super excited and feels ALOT more involved and part of the growing of this baby ITMS. he is not shoved to the sidelines and our MWs have made sure of that too.