hun, you know i have your back any time. i can see why this has thrown you, and i don't want to add anything to the 'is he right' debate - i think melbel and belfie have been pretty much on track with my understanding - and irrespective of whether the statement by your ob was bold or out of line, given all the issues you've had with anxiety etc through this pregnancy, if trusting in him and having your little man early reduces your anxiety levels, then go with that. the stress you would be putting yourself under to push on with those thoughts in your head might be a bad idea from a maternal health perspective. there are two of you to consider - you are equally important!!!

you know what is likely to happen with special care etc - make your call based on what feels right to you and what will serve you and your boy best

love you hun - and can't wait to hear your BA!