At 12 months, my DS was also a dedicated BFer, from memory 5-6 during the day, plus a couple of overnighters usually. And fed to sleep. He was also totally not interested in solids so BM was his main source of nutrition. And I'd hit the same point of wondering if it was ever going to end....

I'm am lucky though cos I'm also pretty immune to other people's opinions about how long I should or shouldn't feed for, mainly because I simply can't see how it impacts/inconveniences them, so their opinions don't matter to me - but having said that, after about 15 months I found that there was a reduction in feed requirements in a day, and I could structure things so that mostly we were feeding at home & in quiet privacy, so aside from DH, mostly people don't even realise that it was still something that DS did.


And I was always one who thought I'd do the 12 months-ish, then weaning would happen, cos I also was a bit freaked out by the concept of a walking, talking BFer....but...I have to confess, that for me, it's actually become a really special thing between the 2 of us, not weird or freaky at all. I've found it very different from feeding an infant, but it's kind of turned into a time where DS obviously feels so secure & content, that it's worthwhile. And still brilliant when he's unwell. And he generally doesn't ask for it in public - we have our cuddles in bed in the morning, and that's our time.

But to get to your actual question, OP had some good points about how to cut things back - the ABA also has a booklet on weaning which has some good approaches in it as well. The other thing you might also find is that he could just do it himself, which is what my nephew did - at 12 months he was still regularly BFed, but by 17 months, all done, not interested in it at all.