My almost four year old DD has just self-weaned. I don't have any advice on weaning when your child isn't leading the process, but there's a great article on here: Weaning Your Baby - A Respectful Approach to Weaning

I did want to say that from my own experience, despite never intending to bf beyond the early toddler days (when I was pg and when DD was tiny, I believe I even uttered the phrase, "I don't want to be bfing a child that can eat a steak"!), I found that because I couldn't find a good reason to stop I just didn't. It was kind of a light bulb moment for me when I looked at my baby the day after she turned one and tried to figure out exactly why she would have needed bfing the day before but not the day after? I just never planned a time to stop, and I didn't need to.

I didn't get any negative pressure and very few comments, I think that has something to do with my positivity and belief that I was doing the very best for my DD. Also, as she got older, there were a lot less bfs where other ppl were around anyway, so much less opportunity to invite comments. I found that the benefits of bfing her beyond infancy far outweighed any sideways glances I might have received.

Another thing that helped me was joining the ABA. My local group had other women who bf their children to self-weaning, bf while pg, tandem fed, and so on. Once I was into the normality of all bfing experiences, I no longer questioned myself and found that I had found another source of support. BB was also good, but the IRL contact was great when I went through any bumps in our bfing journey.

It feels absolutely wonderful to have let my DD take the lead and decide when to stop bfing. My bond with her and the comfort she has derived from bfing for all this time has been a source of great joy and pride for me. I feel like I have listened to my heart and my instincts as a mother and happily ignored what the rest of society might think. Sometimes it was challenging, and it was made doubly so when I didn't feel like there was a great understanding of how to manage issues when bfing an older toddler, but it was definitely worth it!

If you WANT to continue bfing, don't let others put you off it. They have their own beliefs and prejudices, but they don't need to influence your parenting, in this or any other area. Decide if you are comfortable with continuing and if you are, do it!