thanks for your replies ladies, sorry I am so slow in responding, I just don't seem to get on BB as much as I'd like, added to that we've had the "house of ills" (DH, then DD, then DH again then me - fortunately all on the mend now...)

It's reassuring just to read your replies - I have realised that I get "should-ed" quite a bit, and it makes me question what I am doing with DD. I probably do need to offer her more snacks during the day than I currently am, so thanks for that reminder.

And of course she has lost a bit of weight this last week (she had "slap-cheek fever") and pretty much refused all food and most BF as well for a week, taking only water. She is starting to eat again now, but has been quite picky about what she wants and eating much smaller portion sizes than even before. I have pretty much left her to it and she has really wanted to eat just bread and pasta, but tonight she did eat some peas. I keep saying to myself, that she is just doing what is normal (eg, when I have been sick all I want to eat is some toast or something bland).

I just have to try and not get disheartened when I read all these posts about how wonderful BLS babies eat, or listen to the aunts/in-laws/etc.

thanks again ladies.
Now if you could just help me with getting her to have a nap.... LOL...