I think Natalie wrote it very well!

I think we look at a lot of these things in a defensive femanist way, when they aren't meant to denigrade either party, just to define roles so there is peace in the home.

Natalie - it sounds like Judaism & Islam are similar in the laws... People often ask me if i find it restrictive/oppresive etc, but i actually like it. I know clearly what to do and what is expected of me, i find it gives my life more structure than leaving up to myself to define what is right & wrong.