Yael, I actually make my husband prove everything to me, lol. I think cultural traditions and religious law sometimes get mixed up unless you are very knowledgable. We are not very religious, but I would like to be because I think people with a lot of faith have an inner peace and calm to draw on. I often find myself at a loss and when I remember that everything is controlled by God I actually feel calm wash over me. It's like a relief to have the burden lifted.

I agree completely that defining roles makes for a happier and less volatile marriage. I think the high divorce rate reflects this. Roles, whatever they are, should be clearly established before people get married. I suppose we are just lucky that our roles are defined for us. Though I must say, my DH and I can read a verse or a law and come away with totally different interpretations of it, lol.