Don't worry Natalie, my DH tells me something, and i'm like "yeah, but show me the source"... i also don't just listen to people tell me what they think they law is. I like sources...DH spent 3 years learning Torah full time overseas, but that is nothing compared to some people. People easily spend 10-15 (even 50) years studying full time, and still don’t know nearly everything

But i agree, even when you have them, people can interpret them very differently... In Judaism we say there are 600,000 different paths to interpret the Torah. You can't just decide for yourself, you have to have a Rabbi who follows a particular path, but thats why within Judaism people do different things, even though they are all following Torah through their Rabbi's.

We are orthodox, so I cover my hair & other laws of modesty, keep Shabbat completely, keep kosher all that kind of things. Its like you say, i like that i have my faith to draw on when things aren't easy. But i wasn't bought up religious, so its something that i have come to after a lot of searching, and therefore i know it's something i truely believe in, not an excuse when things are hard.

I 100% agree with you about divorce rates and not having roles and common focus' defined! Just look at the rates in USA 50% i think, or perhaps greater now, whereas within orthodox Judaism i think its more around 3-4%.