Yes I have DS in a double bed (!! I KNOW !!) since he was about 18 mo or maybe a bit earlier. It really helped in many ways as I know he wasn't happy in his crib and he was all over our bed. He loves his bed and will play in hit even when it's not bedtime, often bringing ppl in to read in it!

So Janine, even though you are saying "no" he is just not giving up? This is exactly what I think will happen w mine. As whenever I have tried to soothe a different way, he is SO insistent. I know I am pretty weak.

Jennifer, I think you are 100% right -- it is comfort! Not that I have a problem with it! BUT ... I am so hesitant to be tougher. We tried when he was about 16mo and eventually after a week of hell, gave up. It was really tough and I have the help of DH then (I may have the help still, but his work is getting more full on).

You think I should just do it? What will you do, Janine, keep refusing at the nighttime? You'll love this -- this morning after being on from about 4am onwards (!!!) by 6 I thought I was going to die! I pulled him off, he went straight back on with a lot of complaining then pulled off and slept until 8am!!!

Thanks for the support it is really helpful.