I guess the subtle difference is, I was saying no to the bbs once it got too much for me, but not no to the comfort. So a quick drink of water and then lots of cuddles in our bed. By no means was I leaving her alone in her own bed or expecting her to quit me entirely, cold turkey! If she wanted me for comfort, she got it, just not the nipple bit. It's up to you to do what you feel comfortable with and what works for you. I don't know if I'd have persisted if it went on for a long time (the screaming) or she was clearly distressed, beyond just a general 'I'm really cross with what you're expecting of me now'. And I never stuck to this when she was ill, bb is on demand then.
Thanks for your advice Jennifer.
Nox, I think I will take the same approach as Jennifer and to a degree last night I did! When he woke i took him back to our bed and gave him his boobies, after that I did not let him again until morning! He did cry a little but I was right there with him giving him cuddles and the crying (or whinging really!) only lasted for around 5 minutes.
I'm still thinking about whether I will move him to a toddler bed.
Have you decided what you think you will do?
Yes I have tried offering only water. He takes the water then wants to BF!!!! I sleep with him in his bed so he is never short of comfort. I have even tried saying "let go of BB and we will just cuddle" he falls for it for a bit, but eventually wants to get back on. It is really hard. I am quite stressed -- but maybe also today because he is refusing to nap, BB or no! So maybe bad day to be talking about weaning....
He just never seems to give up when complaining for the BB -- like NEVER! And is so loud! I am just at a loss -- I feel so helpless in this situation.
Oh Nox you poor thing!
It sounds like the sleep deprivation may be taking its toll on you, I know I often feel the way you are when I've had a few particurally bad nights in a row, and especially when your DS is refusing to nap, I hate those days!! Is there someone who can help you out to get a little rest to make your head a bit clearer? Things always seems so bad when you're so tired!
Hugs to you babe!
Oh thanks hon! Just knowing that there are others suffering makes me feel better (LOL)! I was just talking about it to a g'friend with similar feeding *issues*. It is nice to know one is not alone!
Just got him to sleep! Feels like 2 hours on BB to make it happen! Of course not quite, we had a play break in the middle -- but OMG it is exhausting!
Yes you are right, a few *bad* nights in a row make all the difference to my point of view. But also may be the kick in the ass I need to make this change?
OMG, I so know how you are feeling!!
How have you been since?
I always prayed ds would selfwean, but unfortunately he hasn't.
I am now forced to instantly wean as I have been given meds that won't allow bf.
ds screamed the house down all night!
I actually called mil this morning at 7am to PLEASE pick him up as i was going crazy. Of course he has been an angel all day with her!
Not looking forward to tonight, he won't take anything but boobies and just chucks a tanty when I say no. He won't settle with cuddles (not too keen on being held for too long).
I would love to hear how you have been handling things so far.
Big hugs!
Oh (B)engeltje you poor poor thing! I can only imagine how horrible this is for you. Can you ask your partner to put your ds to sleep for a while? A friend of mine, who is a hard core natural parenting mum said to me that it is important for us mums to realise that we have raised our kids to be nurtured, loved and respected and they are just that -- so a little upset is not the end of the world -- he will survive.
One night I had to go out after putting ds to sleep and he woke to find only dad. He was incredibly unhappy, but my husband took him around the house to show that I wasn't there and he settle realising that this was all he would get. In our case, a bottle of very diluted cow's milk.
I have managed to successfully wean and we are fine and all happy about it. About a month after these posts, I found I am pregnant (!!) so the breast feeding free time will be short lived! haha
It wasn't quick, or easy, but there were very few tears. However, I had the time to do this.
Much much love and support to you in your weaning. Don't forget, you have done a great job already adn laid all foundations that your ds will survive it -- ok maybe not happy, but he will be fine.
It's up to you to do what you feel comfortable with and what works for you. I don't know if I'd have persisted if it went on for a long time (the screaming) or she was clearly distressed, beyond just a general 'I'm really cross with what you're expecting of me now'. And I never stuck to this when she was ill, bb is on demand then.
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