Thanks girls. I know I shouldn't ever listen to my mother, but as she's visiting this week it would be hard to hide the feeding! He often refuses breakfast or lunch in favour of the breast and it doesn't worry me in the slightest. I would like him to be eating breakfast without the breast in a couple of months, and snacks morning and afternoon rather than an afternoon feed after a year (so just early morning, lunch and night when I go back to work) but don't see the point in pushing it: I have a very unhealthy attitude to food and don't want DS to have that.

Her family are all pretty much anti-breast, or not breast-educated (my cousin's milk "wasn't strong enough", my mum's littlest brother and his family were all bottle feeders and I know my mum is pushing this so she can "have DS for a week to give me a break" but I'm happy for DS to be feeding for years! I also want to show her family that BFing a toddler isn't "wrong", as they have told me it is (then again, they also reckon BFing is wrong so they're just strange). My mum also wanted DS on a bottle of water a day from birth.

I actually don't see the point of solids at all right now - OK, so it's nice to eat dinner as a family and DS enjoys self-feeding (another thing I'm doing "wrong"), doesn't fall asleep just before bedtime and doesn't need entertaining as I eat, but food-wise there's no major benefit.

I just know I'm going to need the reassurance a LOT when she's here considering I'm already doubting myself from just a phone call!

Thanks ladies.