1st in the group to have a baby

[turtleschell]

aww, i'm the first in the group too, and my friends are supportive, but just have no idea.
all my guy friends still try and hit on me even though my partner and i are practically married (we refer to each other as husband and wife)
so obviously I don't see them anymore, and my girl buddies still visit, but it's weird when they talk about all their adventures, and I feel I don't have anything interesting to say.
On the upside I love my mother's group and seem to keep making mummy friends.
You'll just need to reach out and embrace your new status in the world. I hope you stumble across some new and better friends soon!

[ss_storm]

things changed with my small group of friends once we told them we were expecting. We just gradually had less and less to say to each other and now I don't talk to them at all, maybe here and there on facebook but haven't seen any of them IRL for a long time.

I do have a few friends from my old work that I keep in regular contact with and see occasionally as they have kids around DD's age. I'm very thankful for them because I don't have anyone else- we moved towns and haven't had much luck finding new friends here.

I think if your friends are still a little immature then your social group kind of needs to change now that you have a child, they just simply don't understand what it's like. Great if they are supportive and understanding and still make the effort, but if they aren't then it might be best to cut your losses and find some 'mummy friends'. If and when they want to grow up and be real friends to you then welcome them back into your life. It is hard though.

[*LittleMissSummer*]

I have noticed that my circle of friends have started to treat me differently since i became pregnant. I will admit that for a while there all i did was go clubbing and get drunk. But when i told them i was pregnant all i got was "we're happy if you are" and i haven't heard or seen them in... about 7 months..

I think the best advice your going to get and have already recieved is tell them to shove it!

Partying and clubbing arent everything and you will make better friends who will treat you a lot better.

They should be supporting you rather than excluding you and getting nasty because you cant go out.

BIG BIG

[Miss.September]

Oh hon, I know how this feels. DH and I were the first to get married, buy a house and now have a baby and it's a lonely world. None of our friends are even in any relationship thats been longer than a few months, so even "couples" dinners don't happen. We were the weird ones who moved in together (at 21) and got married (at 25) and now had a baby (at 29). DH doesn't find it so difficult but I think that's because he's at work all day, interacting with people, where I'm home. The friends (maybe two) that I still see fairly regularly can't figure it out much, they like kids, they just don't get it. I had a friend bolt for home just because I put DD in the bath. I didn't join a mother's group, hindsight suggests that I probably should have. I think for me though, I'm past these friends. I have nothing in common with them. But loneliness makes me want to hang on.

Finding mummy friends is hard, but I'm on the hunt. I hope you can find some too.

Corelly x

[diamond1]

I have noticed that my circle of friends have started to treat me differently since i became pregnant. I will admit that for a while there all i did was go clubbing and get drunk. But when i told them i was pregnant all i got was "we're happy if you are" and i haven't heard or seen them in... about 7 months..

I think the best advice your going to get and have already recieved is tell them to shove it!

Partying and clubbing arent everything and you will make better friends who will treat you a lot better.

They should be supporting you rather than excluding you and getting nasty because you cant go out.


BIG BIG

You are so happy , I think. But many people are not treated kindly such that, for example my sister
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