Ya poor thing! This has been going on since time immemorial so your are not on your own here...

You must try to nip it in the bud early - use firm, gentle pressure. Since you are living with her there are some things that you will have to give way on (darn teddy bears etc), but there are things you just don't have to cave in about. Having a MIL in the delivery room is a very big thing for me ( no way!) - I was lucky my ils had booked a weekend away when DS was born so I avoided that uncomfortable subject. However, I would have said the hospital only allows 2 support people and you chose DF and YOUR mum. No one can argue with that, she will try but if you promise she can have the first hold (after you) or something like it she may back down. That's if you change your mind about it.

I'm glad she is a nice person, I'm sure that if you include her in as many things as you can handle, and if she feels reassured enough that she will be an important part of the baby's life she may settle down a little. Even if you say it out straight - "you are going to be the BEST nanna ever" or ask her what your DF was like as a baby, or like I said before go shopping with her to keep a good relationship, it will hopefully be easier when she starts to get pushy. Be firm and smile, firm and smile. Listen to her advice and discard what you don't like (this applies to every person in the world that wants to "help" you!), but hear her out.

It sounds like she doesn't wanna let go of her baby, and he doesn't want her to let go of him either (lazyass!). Let her do his washing!! Remind him that he will be doing half the housework when you do move out lol. Keep graceful about it, choose your battles and come in here and have a great, big biatch about it if you need to.

Hopefully things will go well for you! Good luck xoxoxox