SS i think the biggest thing I learnt was to ignore all of their jabber and hurtful comments, sometimes people are just jealous and other times they just have this inbuilt fear of seeing other people happy. Just concentrate on your relationship and happiness and nothing will matter to you. Now my girl is nearly 1 I can say with complete happiness that she has brought more joy to my life than I could ever have imagined, she certainly didn't ruin any aspect. She probably improved it if anything!!!