Feeling unloved, anyone else?

[BellyBelly]

I know what you mean - feels like some sort of business arrangement sometimes doesn't it... you look after kids, they bring in money...

The relationships section on the main site has some goodies in there, check them out:

https://www.bellybelly.com.au/relationships

[~Belinda~]

Andee, hugs to you hun, I really hope you work it all out.

[alioops]

was he there when your DS was born? seeing your partener go through so much can be very traumatic for guys and maybe he is trying to deal with that still. it happenes more than we realise! seeing you in so much pain would have made him feel helpless and all he wanted to do was be able to make the pain go away. he may just be scared of putting you through the pain of childbirth again iykwim.

[joshysmummy]

was he there when your DS was born? seeing your partener go through so much can be very traumatic for guys and maybe he is trying to deal with that still. it happenes more than we realise! seeing you in so much pain would have made him feel helpless and all he wanted to do was be able to make the pain go away. he may just be scared of putting you through the pain of childbirth again iykwim.

Yeah, he was there. He said it was the most stressful day of his life! Seeing me in pain he said was very hard for him, and very scary. he wanted to take my pain away but couldnt! he felt helpless - exactly what you said.

We had a talk last night, things seem okay atm. He knows we are having a few issues, and we vow to work them out! I love him, we dont want to lose eachother, i guess its just hrad finding a balance sometimes, cos i like watching my shows, he doesnt so he plays xbox then i get annoyed... and then we argue over it! But we working things out!

Thanks girls.. appreciate ur help! Juts nice to 'talk' to someone.

[mummytobe_2b]

i guess its just hrad finding a balance sometimes, cos i like watching my shows, he doesnt so he plays xbox then i get annoyed... and then we argue over it! .

i just wanted to say that sounds exactly like me and my dp! lol damn xbox what with guys and video games he plays 24/7!

[stylishJ]

Hi, I'm a newbie here... I've been finding some great threads with really good advice here

I can totally relate to this one!...
My hubby never gets off his pc which he's linked to his xbox, and now his home server... computers... hope you have some luck!
I am slowly realising that the way life was is in the past is gone, this life will be different in every way it's about finding the new ways to connect with each other, the new interests you share!

Live, love, enjoy....

[AngelPunks]

I'm a little bit older - but DH & I have gone through some similar stuff. We've been married 2 1/2 years & together nearly 5.

We've decided to "go back to the beginning" - we're starting to date again, getting to know each other as individual people again (since a lot has happened since we got together - like my mother dying), so we're going on our first weekend away to just be together tomorrow (yeh I know it isn't exactly a weekend but it is for 2 days) to talk and be together.

Maybe it is time to get to re-know each other?

Good luck with it all

[smiles4u]

Hi Andee, ... Just incase for a moment you might think it could possibly be an age thing ... I can tell you it's NOT

... I'm 42 & DP is 32 (we have a 2year old), same here he is not into the same shows as me & he separates into another room to play Xbox ... Me too, I get so annoyed

I had a ' good ' serious chat with him & told him exactly how it was affecting me ... and he truely had no idea ... so, thankfully since OUR chat things have been heaps better

Andee, just tell DH every detail of how YOU feel ... AND I'm gonna lend you a big huge HUG from me for now