Thanks girls. Unfortunatey i think it's well and truly over, he didn't just break up with me, he had planned when he was going to visit Brendan and of the things that are "ours" who gets what. He's planned too well for someone "overwhelmed". I came down to my mum's last week to give him "space", to think about things and i thought he'd realise how much he misses us and our company. But it did the opposite he realised he likes being on his own and he said he was happier. This is so hard, I love him and i was trying to make it work with him. my children aren't going to have their father around