Cate i agree with Nina tell XP to BACK OFF!!. Elouise will be so confused on who to listen to and if it goes on for too long and she's talking non-stop she'll be saying 'but daddy lets me' and you'll look like the bad guy iykwim??. XP needs to understand that Elouise needs a routine and the routine you had going was fine until he messed with it.

Vent all you like Cate, we'll listen to you i hope you get a place of your own soon then you wont have XP to deal with. Good luck with the house hunting.