hello girls i just come across this ite wish i had found it earlier too, im 23 and have a DS who is almost 2.5 i was 20 when pregnant and turned 21 the day after giving birth, im now 23 and pregnant with number two so i will be 23 with 2 children
I got weird looks when pregnant with DS but it didnt really bother me as we (DP and i) were both happy about it as much as this one, we have been together for almost 8yrs...Its funny how when your young people look at you weirdly and just assume things but over all i had great family support and still do which makes things easier even though i do now live 4hrs away from them
Hope - i hear you on being younger then ones in your belly buddies group i kinda feel the same way that when i post they dont seem to care so would be great to talk to others around my age
HAHA!!! i was looking at the dates of last posts thinking, no-one probably worries about here now.!!
MrsS i think ur in my belly buddies group, im sure youd think of the perfect way to hounor & celebrate.
hope, this pregnancey has been full-on, witch makes me think its a girl... was never this full-on with the boys! dd on the other hand!! and talk about emotinal!! ive been crying at mostly everything i watch, and the boys cant do a thing right!
well got to go, dfs back
Hello girls, i havent read the other posts but I'm 21 with a 2 month old and when i was pregnant i got bad looks and comments made to me by complete strangers. I have 3 close friends who have kids but the others who have bubs around my DDs are older and find i dont have anything in common with them. People are surprised when i say me and my dp have been together 6 years they do the math and work out i was 15 and then it gets rather awkward LOL
Often i feel that i get frowned upon on the choices i make as a parent because i am young. Ive had a few appts at MCHN and they asked if DD is my first and i say yes and they look relieved..
KM - i hear you on being with your DP since 15....I was 15 and my DP was 17 when we first got together and first bub after 5yrs which i think is pretty good!
Being a young mum i believe nothing is wrong with it and u do things how you u want dont let others influence you as the saying goes "you learn from your mistakes" and i believe by that but there are alot of young ones who give us young mums a bad name which is hard but i guess in a way its just like bad drivers give every young driver a bad name kwim??? BUT being a mother is the most amazing experience and i wouldnt change it for the world and i cant wait to welcome my second bundle of joy
Thats it. We had our 6 year a month after she was born which everybody we know expected us to get pregnant right away, we were also given a month and here we are 6 years later with our first bub still as happy as the day we got together, i wont say day we met as i hated him LOL
And i like that i am a young mum, we want 3 kids (maybe more) but we want them spaced out so our next will be in abut 3 years time and the next a couple years later. And if we decide our family isn't complete i am still able to keep having more without any real issues getting into the way.
When my friends said being a mother is amazing i didnt know just how amazing it is. DP said after our bub was born she was placed on my chest and he said he has never seen me as happy as i was at that moment. The whole world shut out and it was just me and her. You never know love until you have a child.
thats a gorgeous saying "you never know love until you have a child" its the best feeling to ever experience!
I will have almost 3yrs between my 2 and i think it'll be a good age gap, we both have said 2 will be enough for now mayb when this second one hits school age we might have another but have never settled on how many we want!
before we got pregnant we always had ppl asking when the babies where coming, but we were happy the way we were and he come as a suprise but we wouldnt change it!
I nearly made some old nana faint the other (nothing against old people just the general too young to have kids blah blah) anyway heres me with my huge pregnant belly and my 5 year old she asks if claire was mine i said yes her jaw nearly hit the floor then she commented on the bump and asked if bump was number 2 i said no bump is number 4 and 5 - i think she nearly died!!
Age doesnt determine how much or a bad/good mummy you are, if only some people realised that!
How are we all?
Welcome PZ! I feel for you hun on your TTC journey its a rough ride but hold on there is always hope! xoxo NEVER Listen to people who tell you that you don't deserve something when you know in your OWN heart you would do the best job you could ever do!!!
MrsS- at the nanna and numbers 4 & 5!! would have been great to have seen it
of course age doesn't matter i know a almost 40yr old who has 8 kids and doesnt deserve them as ive seen some horrible stuff, but on the other hand i know a 21yr old pregnant with her 3rd who doesnt deserve them either so of course age doesnt make you a good or bad mummy....It's all in your heart
Kawazuki- welcome, glad to have you join us!
thats lovely you accept your dss as yours u choose to marry your hubby u accept his previous children too, i know a 26yr old who's DP
has 4 children to his ex and she has 1 to him, and those poor step children get treated like crap she has even now just stopped him from continuing on with court fighting for them from their mother that really upsets me they are a package!
Raffy- welcome to you as well!
i'll be looking forward to your BA how exciting being a first time mummy, i understand completely where ur coming from although it took DP and I alot longer then you to concieve, it took us 4yrs our first pregnancy ever (that we knew about) ended in a M/C, a month later i was pregnant again so our DS wasnt an whoopsie he was planned but didnt exspect it to happen so quickly after a m/c.....How exciting to have a baby boy they are just as handsome and loving as a little girl
The age thing ive lost contact with alot of people cause we wanted a family and they didnt and as far as im concerned a family is much much much more enjoyable then going out getting drunk and wasting money basically, my only friends now are basically women alot older then me too i have a few friends with children who are my age but not many most are older
After 8yrs DP and I still have our ups and downs but exactly as Kawazuki mentioned what would life be like if everything went our way, and as much as we whinge about our DP's/DH's we still manage to stick by them (as much as sometimes i get very frustrated with him and yep mainly over HOUSEWORK haha)
Welcome Serenity and Ammaki!!! Glad you come to join us
Havent mentioned this before but i look forward to getting to know everyone better and it helps having others around my age!
Tellytubby- welcome and i feel the same way sometimes about thinking how my life would be different without my DS but you know i would NEVER change my life again and even if i could re-live my life over i would have my DS at the same age, YES it was hard but he is now my life he makes it worthwhile waking up everyday to see a smile on his face and tell me "Good Morning Mummy" when he wakes me up!
Teni- Welcome!!! whoopsie babies frustrate me especially when the mother puts them up for adoption or simply has the baby but doesnt look after it the best way they could there is something called "protection" for a damn reason!
You are going to make a wonderful mum, and look forward to hearing about your BA!
Sarah- Men ahuh i hear you on that one lol he tell's me one day we will have a 3rd then the next week it might be nope 2 is enough! So we shall see im kinda betting i end up pregnant not long after this one is born simply cause i dont want to stuff around with contraception it screws wit my body and i've told DP he will wear a condom and he says like hell i dont like them haha so we shall wait and see once this ones born though!!!
And YAY for the fridge its always exciting to get something new, i just got a new car yesturday!! Spend all day just thinking of things i needed down the road for an excuse to drive it :rolf: im such an idiot! hehe
Deedles- welcome and looking forward to get to know you too!
Congrats on finally having 2 little boys, how do you find being the only girl amongst all your boys lol give me some hints please hehe
Oh dear im going to find hard to keep up with us all now LOL! ooops i was trying to copy my msg "incase" it decided not to post and i didnt have to retype it all, WELL it went the next page and come up with an error im like OH NO ive lost it, luckily it was ONLY telling me i've used too many smilies LOL
I really hope I haven't offended anyone with what I said, by the way. I just get frustrated at these people I know who are always handing their kids off to their mums to go out partying every single weekend. I understand you need to get out, but seriously, if you're gonna get a babysitter, why not me? :p
I got all excited today because I was allowed to change a friend's son's nappy Turns out I still need to get over my fear of pooey nappies, but i think I did an okay job. I suppose it'll be different with my own, too.
teni, wasnt offended, just thought id let you know my first and current pg were whoopsies, but not regreted or resented at all! and yes your own babys poopy nappys are compleatly different! untill they hit 3 and still want to go in a nappy, then it is discusting, but were working on that.
I remember the first time I changed DD's nappy. It was in the hospital (obviously), and I felt sooo awkward, because it felt like a game.. Like I was being silly, and playing 'mums and babies' game. I know that sounds crazy. I guess it hadn't 'clicked' yet. Was all too surreal Now I could do it with my eyes shut And yes, it's definately different when it's your own. Especially the newborn nappys - those poo's are far from gross (bf babies). They don't smell or anything!! Once they start solids tho...... geeze!!! haha!
Hi Miztqie (i spelt that wrong... didn't i?? lolz) Thanks for the warm welcome. Argh I hate it when the internet chews up your post and you have to start again. I also get a little too excited with the smilies and have to do some editing, haha.
Serenity - You're such a fab mum. Soo much patience, I really don't know how you do it! I can see you with 6 kids, and i really envy you I would love a big family, but just don't think I could handle anymore.. You nevr know what the future holds i guess
Mizqtie - thanks for the welcome sorry to hear it took so long for you to concieve, i can imagine how frustrating that would have been, and also sorry about ur m/c. but glad you finally got ur sticky bub, and so quickly as well i to tend to have friends that are older than me due to where im at in my life. but i cant complain, they are great and help me out loads and all the other "friends" have fallen by the waistside which im fine with. amen regarding DPs, especially about the housework
and i wasnt offended by anyones posts. each entitled to their own opinions and generally i tend to agree that there are people out there with babies that either resent them or leave them with people so they can go party which isnt fair as alot of couples ttc for years and spend alot of money to get a baby yet its so easy for undeserving people. and then there is also all the whoops babies (that majority of us have) but we love and support and look after our babies like we should iykwim??
AFM - im a little bit excited, i lost my plug today, so at least i know things are happening. hopefully quickly getting loads of BHs and abdo/lower back pain. come on babyyyyy
Haha Nic classic! I can't wait to see your bump! Like I said, DF and I are planning a trip to Balla for the Pizza Hut bistro (LOL!) so we can meet up (and pigout) I'm good, still chugging along the ttc train. Have you told the girls about the twins? How did they react?
im dipping in here
im 25, but hubby is 39 in a few weeks.. eeek he isn't happy lol
we have 3 kids cody 10 (step son)
tay 3 and miss M
I want one more but we will wait a bit for her or him..
i get some weird look really when i walk around with cody, it helps that he has same skin complexion and freckles as me people dont question it really
but they go wow you must of been young, and im like yeh. but im happy and have a loving husband and great suport
i work and have my degree, so i haven't mssed out on anything as far as im concerned, now i have time to grow old with my kids and enjoy them and still be able to keep up when they have kids
my parents are only 50 and very active, its great to have everyone able to do stuff and party
kawazuki- I had no idea that you were 25 and your DH is 39 (even though its in your sig i was still oblivious ) i see a lot of couples that the other half is older which is great. As most people would know my DP is 6 years older than me and we have faced some very judgemental people and found ourselves to be judged quite badly. Hes copped it all... cradel snatcher, pedo..etc and hes never cared he said why should age get in the way of love. People gave us 1 month they said i was going through a 'phase' and then when it lasted longer it was when i turn 18 i'll wake and go "what the hell am i thinking" and then when that didn't happen our friends stopped talking to us.... I was ruining my life, i wouldnt get to live like all of them (their idea of living is going out every weekend hooking up..) everyone assumed we would be one of 'those' couples that had children early not have a career and basically be welfare scum (as DP politely puts it) but here we are 6 years later, while yes our relationship isn't as strong as we would like but we have each other and we love our DD very much. We have just let things happen, we moved into our first place together 18 months ago and have a 2 month old bub and when she is 3/4 we are going to get married.
Thankfully now people don't see our age difference they assume i am his age and are shocked when i say i am 21. And no age doesn't have any affect on how you parent. I know of great teenage parents and not so great ones and the other way around.
hi ladies, just wanted to subscribe to this thread. Im 20 years old and expecting our baby boy any day now DP and i have been together for 3 years and still just as in love as the day we got together. people find it hard to believe when i tell them that this baby was planned!! i had a m/c in Nov last year with a whoops baby and after that DP and i just decided this was what we wanted to do and BAM feel pg on the first month of TTC. i do believe we are fairly mature for our age in comparison to our friends as majority of them are still living with their parents, but we have loans and bills and rent and things and we also live on the opposite side of Australia to our family (DP is in the air force) dont get me wrong i do enjoy getting out and having a few drinks with my friends but we just have different priorities than most people our age and i cant wait to be a mum. thankfully i havent really come across and prejudice or judgement regardin my age and everyone i talk to about including family and friends are all REALLY supportive and excited which is a huge help.
anyways im ranting. cant wait to get to know you all xx
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which makes things easier even though i do now live 4hrs away from them
at the nanna and numbers 4 & 5!! would have been great to have seen it
she has even now just stopped him from continuing on with court fighting for them from their mother
Turns out I still need to get over my fear of pooey nappies, but i think I did an okay job. I suppose it'll be different with my own, too.
haha!
Hi Miztqie (i spelt that wrong... didn't i?? lolz) Thanks for the warm welcome. Argh I hate it when the internet chews up your post and you have to start again. I also get a little too excited with the smilies and have to do some editing, haha.
getting loads of BHs and abdo/lower back pain. come on babyyyyy
I'm good, still chugging along the ttc train. Have you told the girls about the twins? How did they react?
) i see a lot of couples that the other half is older which is great. As most people would know my DP is 6 years older than me and we have faced some very judgemental people and found ourselves to be judged quite badly. Hes copped it all... cradel snatcher, pedo..etc and hes never cared he said why should age get in the way of love. People gave us 1 month they said i was going through a 'phase' and then when it lasted longer it was when i turn 18 i'll wake and go "what the hell am i thinking" and then when that didn't happen our friends stopped talking to us.... I was ruining my life, i wouldnt get to live like all of them (their idea of living is going out every weekend hooking up..) everyone assumed we would be one of 'those' couples that had children early not have a career and basically be welfare scum (as DP politely puts it) but here we are 6 years later, while yes our relationship isn't as strong as we would like but we have each other and we love our DD very much. We have just let things happen, we moved into our first place together 18 months ago and have a 2 month old bub and when she is 3/4 we are going to get married.
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