Just wanting to let you know how much I related to your post. I am now 36 and FINALLY pregnant after 6 years of trying.
I am a hardened IVF'er. I also started trying at age 30. I also tried all of the natural stuff first, then went on to a specialist. They all agreed at how healthy I was, how good my hormone levels were. I also had an endo diagnosis however it was classified as 'mild' and they didn't really see why it was interfering with things!
Its so frustrating isn't it? It also used to amaze me that people who hadn't even met when we started trying to conceive, actually managed to meet, marry, have a baby then start trying for their second...it was so hard to deal with, I totally get it.
So yes - being one of the 'infertile' ones - its not what I expected in my life. When I was in the midst of IVF, I went through a stage of waking at 4am every day with the sudden realisation that my husband and I were "that couple" who couldn't have kids, the couple everyone felt sorry for...the forgotten ones. I was so sad about it that I used to cry in my dreams. Having kids was the one thing that I always knew I wanted 100% for certain, and as time went by, the reality hit me slowly that it wasn't necessarily a given.
My journey with IVF was not a pretty one so I wont go into details. But the positive is - I found a way. It turned out that it was my eggs that were the issue. We ended up going down the path to find an egg donor. It was a nerve wracking time, but we found an amazing woman who wanted to help us, and on the second transfer I became pregnant for the first time in my life. Ofcourse I am still pinching myself every day. I am due in 6 weeks and I am grateful for every pregnancy symptom, every bout of reflux, every cramp!!!! It has finally happened.
I hope that your journey with IVF is a short one and that it works nice and quickly for you - as it does for many people!! But please know that if you come across more road blocks, and if you really want this, there is a way. You are still young (I know sometimes it doesn't feel like that - but you are - there are many women out there 10 years on from you who are now struggling with other factors due to options being limited because of age etc).
Hang in there!!! And it looks like if you ever need support then you have come to the right place!!
Havent been on this for a while, and just read your post CJane. very powerful, i was near tearing up....i can completely relate. I feel like ive been through such an arduous ordeal after three years of trying. i cant imagine what it would be like after 6 years.....im so happy that you are nearly due! you may have had the baby by now so please let me know how its going......
I have my first transfer tomorrow- i have 6 embyro's. have no idea whether this is god, normal or what....im excited that something different is happening as opposed to nothing.
6 embryo's is good B, I had 18 eggs, 13 viable embs, but only 8 freezable. So you can see how it dwindles down. Best of luck and heaps of sticky thoughts for you. the next two weeks arnt fun. Use your support network. *hugs*
B - I have my fingers and toes crossed for positive result for you !
I am about to start my first (and hopefully only!) IVF cycle this week - do you have any tips for how to overcome the amount of needles you have to have? I am being prescribed Gonal F and Cetratide - then Ovidrel. I have been injecting pregnyl for many cycles now and still hate the thought of it!
Also does anyone have any stories of using acupuncture alongside an IVF cycle?
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