thread: how do you not think the worst

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  1. #1
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    Dec 2010
    The zoo
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    Re the crinone - if it gets too bad you can always ask for progesterone suppositories. I used them in the *ahem* other hole and they were sooo much better.

    And in relation to not thinking the worst - you know, in some ways I think that's what helped me through it. Because if I imagined the worst, and could work out in my mind how I would navigate the future if things didn't work out, then I felt less anxious. I feel I wasted so much time and energy feeling crap about infertility while I was doing IVF, and worrying about if it would work or not, that now I'm on the other side there is a big black hole where I should have been enjoying myself.

    But the TWW - yeah the pitts. Chocolate chocolate chocolate!!

  2. #2
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    Nov 2011
    SE Melbourne
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    Talking

    Even when thinking the worst, I found it helpful to remember that there was still a little bit of hope.... grabbing onto that little bit of hope... and remembering the 'cool' bits about the whole process... so for example
    - Actually SEEING the embie on the screen before it's implanted... that was cool!!
    - Actually knowing that the eggs fertilised this time... that was cool!
    - Feeling the symptoms created by the medication and thinking.... Oh...that's what that will feel like when I'm actually preg..!
    - Being connected to DH is a totally different way to usual and knowing that he will do anything for me at the moment... that was lovely!

    It's about being rational about the whole thing really - but at the same time - not beating yourself up if you do have a couple of days meltdown. Remembering that it's your body and mind coming to terms with what this means for your TTC adventures.

    and the main thing I have found helpful over the past month - my first IVF treatment - is finding people and places I can reach out and feel connected - cause it's such a lonesome experience and it's hard to share with people face to face... I have seriously found BB an amazing place for that. And the past week (which has been a rough BFN) my mum has been surprisingly amazing!! I should thank her for that.

    there's a thread around here somewhere where people put their 'funny' stories about what the process was like... that was quite a cathartic process and i really enjoyed it....
    if i knew how to link back to it I would... but I don't know how.... hang on.... I'll see if I can figure it out....
    https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...-laugh-173123/... did that work...??

  3. #3
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    Feb 2011
    Melbourne
    207

    If you found a way to make the TWW easy you'd be a millionaire!

    This forum kept me sane & my DH. I could've curled up & hibernated.

    I felt the world was a cruel place for people who are long term TTC.

    Try & do some nice things for yourself. Try to do something that makes you laugh & get a cuddle from a support person who will let you say anything in confidence xx

    Best of luck