We spoke last night and she was trying to apologising for bursting into tears on me. I just told her it was completely understandable that she was devastated and I would be too, and tried to reassure her that the hormones she still had in her body must be completely outta wack and she shouldn't feel bad about feeling like ****. I do get that I can't possibly understand what she is going thru. That is why I am asking all of you. I have told her I know I won't understand but I just want to help in anyway that I can.
I do think there is a tendency in me to want to make it better for her, but that too seems somehow selfish of me. I know she just needs to be sad at the moment and be free to grieve. I have been touching bases with her relatively regularly every week or two, just don't want to be the pregnant friend who can't give her space... So mostly I send txt that way she can ignore me when she needs too.
She is such a lovely girl that she has been really happy for my pregnancy and supportive. Even tho I am sure that there are times she just wants to punch me for being pregnant and not her, I know I used to feel that way sometimes when I wasn't even ttcing because I wished I was in a place in my life where I could..... Ahh it is just hard sometimes isn't it.
Well I guess I will just keep plodding on as best I can and trying to be as supportive as I can and hope she forgives me if I say the wrong thing.
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