IVF and DH works away???

[Amy_jellybean]

Hi lovely ladies,

Im just wondering if there is anyone else out there who is going through IVF anf their DH/DP works away?

We are starting our first cycle next month and im already finding it very difficult not having DH home. We are in a bit of a catch 22 because if he gets a job back in the city then we cant afford to have a baby.

Its so hard sometimes just sitting here on my own thinking about everything and not being able to talk to him about it all, and then we he is home its all we talk about and very draining!

Aim x

[Mildez]

We are in a similar boat. DH works away and other then BB I have no one to talk to about it but its always on my mind and when DH is home thats all we talk about and thats very draining. It really does help to talk about other things for us in times when that is the main topic of conversation and we try and go for weeks at a time without talking about it in any great depth. I think coming into starting IVF its a very anxious time so you can't help but talk about it. I also start soon.
I don't really have any advise except your not alone.

[briggsy's girl]

we went through 7 IUI's and 3 IVF cycles with DH living away from here for work. it wasn't easy at all. but it is doable. you need to be open and talk to him about what you're feeling - if you feel crap, TELL HIM. if you're struggling, TELL HIM. there are some key times he needs to be home obviously - but tehre are some times, if he can be home, it helps - BT day for instance. you either want him there to celebrate (hopefully) or to hug you if needed. DH was only home twice for results day and that was the hardest time for me to cope with him being away

jump into the LTTTC threads and make yourself some friends in there - the support from BB was what kept me sane (well, as sane as i could be).

good luck

BG

[ChristieJ]

I am new to this. Starting IVF this month. Very nervous! My husband also works away so all by myself dealing with this. The last month with did the assessment cycle and I was emotional through that so not looking forward to this! But also excited at the same time!

[Amy_jellybean]

Hi girls,

Thanks so much for your lovely replies, its so nice to know that im not the only one going through this.

ChristieJ - I see that you are also in WA, who are you going through if you dont mind me asking?

Aim x

[ChristieJ]

I am with PIVET in Perth.