Hey there. I guess it depends what you want from them.......I am also extremely in control in every day life but got to a point last week where things were so on top of me I thought I'd give it a go - there has to a reason why so many people use it, right? If you want to have an outlet to talk about whatever you want to it will be what you need, if you want practical strategies/ways to get through/to know if what you are feeling is 'normal' or another perspective on how you could be or how other people handle things then it is a complete waste of time and energy. I tried two different people last week and at the end of it felt angry and oh so frustrated and no further ahead. What has made me feel better this week was a spa day followed by a night out with girlfriends on Saturday where although they both knew, it never came up and I felt like the young, happy, pre-IVF me. Was good to know that person was still there! This IVF thing not so fun with every step of the way but you can and will do it. Best of luck. Hugs, K.