Thanks so much ladies, they are some great suggestions and extra questions,
pholi -Ill keep in mind the different questions for different people and make notes of what she needs to ask who. And stooring frozen embies for future pregnancies is another thing she wants to know about but I think at the moment she is even wondering if one pregnancy might be possible
BG- thanks for the suggestion, she is keen on accupuncture and now has private health cover which will pay part of the cost so she will be looking into it
N2L-thanks for the suggestions, Im a nurse and didnt even think to ask about side effects , I think we had put down how long did he expect her egg reserve to last, this is one of her biggest concerns for obvious reasons

Im planning on taking a notebook and sitting in the corner scribbling down the answers. Unless she forgets something she had wanted to ask Ill try and keep in the background and maybe have a coffee +/- chocolate and a debrief with her after the appointment as my MIL will look after my DD's for the morning

From what my sister has told me she will either be in the middle of a stim cycle or having a transfer (all things going well) when my 3rd baby is due so Im sure that will be a hugely emotional time for her with all the hormones and hopes and anxieties about her chance of a successful pregnancy then having our baby right in her face I know she will be happy for me but I can only imagine the feelings she will have at the time. She has been looking at different forums but hasn't found anything that suits yet, I might have to suggest BB to her now