The first time I did this it was so hard. I understand your problem with the hour calling window. Unless it's the weekend I'm working and a couple of times I've been a bit late in calling. The nurses have never given me a hard time about it though! You shouldn't be made to feel that you don't deserve treatment.
It sounds like the medication is really not agreeing with you. Feeling depressed and foggy isn't unheard of - you should have an information sheet with your meds that lists common side effects - I'm pretty sure these are included. You could speak to a pharmacist if you're having a hard time with the clinic, although the clinic staff should be aware of these things.
Have you got someone who could communicate with them on your behalf?
It's a very difficult and overwhelming process. I hope things improve from here for you.
sounds like the meds are really knocking you around, poor thing. Perhaps talk to your doctor about other optoins. you may not be able to chagne for this cycle, but if you have to do another (though hopefully not, obviously) then it might be worth changing things a bit. That said, the staff don't sound super friendly! It's hard enough doing this without supportive people helping you through. A clinc change could be a good idea - do you know anybody who's used a fertility clinic where you are that you could ask for advice?
On the religious thing, I guess, from a medical perspective, they want to give you the best possible chance at success. The more eggs they fertilise, the more embryos you'll end up with and so the more chances you'll have. That's not to say they should not respect your wishes - they're your eggs afer all.
You might like to join in the chat in our LT TTC & Assisted Conception thread - there are lots of other ladies there currently cycling.
This is my first time doing IVF. I have just started sniffing Synarel and have just done my first injection of Gonal F. I am doing a short cycle and are very anxious. My DH and I have been TTC for nearly 4 years until we got tested and now we are doing IVF & ICSI for our first go. I really want this to work how ever I am realistic and know that it could take a while. Has anyone had any success first time? None of my friends have had to go through this and when you are waiting at the clinic to do all the tests etc no one really wants to talk. I wonder if there is anyone who can share their experiences and offer some advice on what to expect other than the nurses who seem to say things very verbatim.
Hi saraz, geez your clinic dosnt sound very good at all, they sound horrible! u poor thing. as for your foogyness i agree with kass maybe your body isnt respondning very well to it, after egg collection and on the 2ww i was very emotional and depressed but that was the only symptom i had. Dont let them feel you dont deserve to be a mother because if you didnt you wouldnt be there, your paying them thousands of dollars so you are intitled to have your say. Maybe you colud change clinics? I wish you goodluck with your exams and your IVF journey xxx
Hi new too IVF, welcome to the IVF journey. unlike you i had very high expectations, im 23 and DH is 25 i thought we would fall first or 2nd go but we didnt, im on our 3rd FET cycle and i got a BFP but im pretty sure iv lost it this is the hardest time, i feel like we have already gone through so much and now i have the stress of have we lost it. The only side affect to the medication from the STIM cycle was during our 2ww, i was very emotional and depressed and it lasted for about a week. This is a great site for advice and experience there are lots of wonderful woman going through the same thing. good luck xxx
Hi Sara - it sounds like you and hubby have had an awful time so far! I didn't have work or exams to deal with on our icsi/ivf cycle but I did have a lot of fogginess, I couldn't even form proper sentences half the time and I found it very unsettling not feeling like my brain was functioning properly! It cleared up really quickly though after opu so hopefully yours will too.
My hubby and I had lots of issues too with the number of eggs we fertilised, I spoke to our FS about them and he totally understood and was very accommodating, and was happy for us to decide how many. Our first two goes we didn't have to make many decisions as we only ended up with a few eggs (2 - none made it, then 3 none fertilised). I'm so sorry your clinic has not been more understanding, you have some big decisions to make and ultimately it is your decision. If it helps we had 16 follicles, 13 eggs, 7 fertilised, and only 2 grew to be 5 day old blasts (we had both transferred, bfp, but ectopic). I grilled the nurses and scientists for ages to find out how often peoples initial egg counts related to how many embryos they had left. I guess its also different depending on what day they want you to transfer. We didn't decide how many eggs to fertilise until after we were back in the clinic and saw how many eggs we actually had.
Oneday, I'm so sorry to hear you're not sure what's happening at the moment, sending hugs.
Hi Saraz - just to follow on from what Milly's Mummy was saying about fertilisation, I had 9 on my first collection, 5 fertilised, 1 transferred fresh, two made it to freezing and only one thawed. So all up I got two out of nine, and neither one took. My second time I only got 5 eggs, 4 were fertilised, but neither of the first two took so I'm down to two.
I've been told to expect about two thirds to fertilise and then two thirds of those to make it through to freezing stage, and then that a couple may not survive the thaw. After that your chances of a successful transfer depend on your age and the quality of your embryos. According to my fs my chances are about 45% with my age and quality, however I'm up to transfer 5! I guess you have to make the decision that sits best with you, and some people are certainly luckier than me, but I certainly don't want to go through the collection process any more than I have to! Has your fs given you an indication of how many eggs they're expecting from you? I understand that fertilising 20 is too much when you want to be able to give them all a chance, but I don't know how many people actually do get those numbers. Might be worth bringing it up again.
Nikki - welcome. I'm happy to talk if you have any q's and like oneday said, there are lots of other helpful and understanding women here!
Oneday - I'm sorry to hear things aren't going well I really hope you haven't lost it.
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this is the hardest time, i feel like we have already gone through so much and now i have the stress of have we lost it. The only side affect to the medication from the STIM cycle was during our 2ww, i was very emotional and depressed and it lasted for about a week. This is a great site for advice and experience there are lots of wonderful woman going through the same thing. good luck xxx
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