Your kids sound wonderful - I like your comment about everyone only really being 'half related', I'd never thought of it that way!
I think our kids have an inkling that I'm pg already - Pippi who is ten, picked up my pg tablets the other day (which I stupidly left on the counter) and started reading out the label "Blackmores.." but stopped before she read out 'pregnancy'. She didn't say anything, so neither did I. I don't want to tell them too early as we've already had a few miscarriage-scares (had a couple of ultrasounds, and everything seems fine), but I think after our 12 week scan we'll let them know. I hate keeping secrets so can't wait to be able to tell everyone!
I am step mum to two boys (12 and 15). DH and I are having our first child together.
We were pretty open with the boys from the day we found out that we were pregnant.
The 15 year old has aspergus and wouldn't have a clue as to what is happening as he lives in his own little world. (The other issue here is that he is not even the son of my DH. DH just took on the role of dad to him when he was 2. ) We have both sat him down and tried to explain everything to him but he just phases out and couldn't care less. I won't be leaving him alone with the baby under any circumstances.
The 12 year old (DH's son) has been really excited since day one and will get out my pregnancy book every fortnight and look up what is happening and ask questions. He comes up and rubs my belly and listens to the heartbeat at any opportunity. He will massage my feet and give me pedicures also. He has become increasingly protective of me and is extremely considerate of how I am feeling.
I can see when Amber is born that it will be a constant battle between DH and SS to change nappies, bath her and generally take care of her. I could actually express all my milk (when it comes in) and they would take turns in feeding her.
Your 12 y.o SS sounds very cute - you'll have a great helper there! It must be hard with your 15 y.o, it'll be interesting to see how he reacts when bub is born.
We told our kids a couple of weeks ago and they are all very excited. Although Pippi who is the eldest at 10 y.o went really quiet after her initial happy reaction and when we finally got it out of her she was concerned how her mum was going to take the news and whether she would take it out on her. How sad is that - we assured her that we would tell her mum first (which we did) and she became more relieved. Pippi always seems to get caught in the middle between her mum and us - her mum says things about us to her or infront of her that she really shouldn't and which makes her feel uncomfortable. My DH and I go out of our way to try and keep things light and happy so the kids feel they can tell us anything without being judged or feel they are taking sides, but I just wish their mum did the same.
Anyway all is good now and they love coming up and pressing their ears against my tummy to see if they can hear or feel anything. I told them it would be a few more weeks atleast but they're so excited. They are constantly suggesting names and fighting over whether it will be a boy or girl. So really we couldn't have aksed for a better reaction. But it will be interesting to see if anything changes once bub actually arrives. Guess we can only wait and see.
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