we have 3 beautiful children. I have always wanted 4. The first two were IVF due to male factor fertility issues and the Dr said we had zilch chance of falling pregnant naturally. Suprise - DD was born when I had an 18 month old and a 3 1/4 year old! We had always wanted 4 but were thinking of having a bigger gap between 2 and 3.

Now we talk about what to do about contraception. Obviously DD was some kind of miracle. But DH doesn't want to go back to IVF. We also wouldn't destroy any embryos and have an "every embie gets a chance" policy so we would put them back in even if we had a 4th child.

DH sometimes wavers on the 4th. He'd be happy with 3 but could do 4 for me. I know I want 4. t I have this horrible fear that if/when no. 4 is born, what if I don't feel finished? 5 is a huge family! I don't want to want 5, but what if 4 isn't enough!

Tell me about how you came to have your larger families and if you are "done"