Personally i just knew that the 3rd was it for me ...... i could not handle looking after any more .. i think it is your sanity that you need to think about
We are in the opposite predicament. I feel done but hubby wants one or two more. I've been through 3 c/s and my last pregnancy was horrible with anxiety after Sophie died. I'm done, our van is full, our eldest 4 are starting to TT and the thought of getting pregnant again makes me feel like I'm losing myself as a person even more.
Well we have had a 4 year journey to our fourth child, due in about 8 weeks. I knew quite strongly after baby #3 that I was not done, and I always said that I wanted 4 or more children. Dh would have been happy with 2. We didn't anticipate the long journey of TTC and miscarriage so the four year age gap would have been smaller.
I feel quite strongly this time round that this baby is our final baby. I could be fine with 5 but I'm honestly feeling content with the idea of four, with this baby being our last. I never say never but eventually reasoning has to come into play.
I was done after 3. And then we had number 4. And I was done. Done as done could be.
Now I'm pregnant with number 5, and I'm terrified!!! I never wanted another one because I struggle with the ones I have! I did have 4 in 4 years though, and its just starting to get easier, and see the light at the end of the tunnel. I was really looking forward to next year, when I would have one in grade 2, one in prep, one in kindy, and just my nearly 3 year old at home.
Now I'll have a baby as well - and I didn't plan this, and its been very hard to deal with.
4 was my limit. I don't regret her at all because she is freakin' amazing and I love her to death, but I'm scared what will happen after this one is born.
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