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My DH & I know that this bub is going to be our last. As much as I would looooooove loads more, emotionally I just can't do it again... physically it is becoming harder too.
DH & I have agreed that after this baby has turned 1 he will look at getting the snip done... we're giving ourselves a year to really decide if this is 100% what we both want.
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When I had my 4th I knew I was done physically and I was pretty sure mentally as well. I had my tubes tied as I was having a cs so was easier for me to do it..
Now I think its the best thing I ever did. of course for a bit there I wished I could have more but phsically, mentally and financially it just wasn't ever going to happen so I am really glad I got it done now
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After my 3rd I thought I would never want another bub...but after 7 years I desperately wanted another one, and that's how Jack came about. Now Jack is one and I am already contemplating the next, LOL.
I think if you are still not 100% sure, you should not go through with the snip...it is so final. Only do it once you are BOTH 100% certain.
I have to say.....I have regrets yet know for the sake of my children that another baby would be stretching it for us.
I miss having a newborn..that softness...that little person who you are their world to 24/7....i think to in my case its due to the trama of Mateauz birth and his first 3 motnhs of life as I feel I missed them.
I am now focussing on watching my babies grown now and enjoying the love we share and journey's we are creating in our life together
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Its funny - DH and I are like fully certain that lil Phe is our last. We both feel that its too much of me to ask. The HG diagnosis - the fact that I have made myself so ill from it and put my babies at risk of future problems without even knowing. We just can't do that again.
Yet - neither of us are anywhere near ready to take the permenant plunge. I think you need to be mentally prepared for that too. The reason why is think of the heart ache and struggles of IVF couples. Its putting ourselves into their shoes on purpose. Going from having this wonderful ability to having almost no hope at all. Its not something we can do to ourselves either.
Talk about difficult. No help, I know, but at least it lets you know that you guys are not alone in this.
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Marlene... this is exactly why DH and I reeeeeeeeally want to wait. I was certain I was done with having babies after my first 2... then when my DD was 7, we decided to start trying again. If we'd done something permanent, we wouldn't have our DS2 here with us now.
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the solution does not always need to be the final snip snip
there are so many other alternatives that are so easy to remove without surgery
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i spose. i'm just over putting chemicals in my body. i don't want to go ont he pill. i have a strong family history of high BP, strokes and heart attacks. Personally, I have really low BP..
I think i'm juts inlove with giving birth.. and.. having a NB.. i'm exhausted 24/7 so there is no way i could have another. plus financially..
we are intending to send them all to catholic shcools.. plus.. with their dance, softball and swimming.. money money money.
but.. i would just looooove a bigger family. the problem is i think DH doesn't care either way.. which makes it hard for me. If i do the wrong thing, he'll resent me..
agrh..
men!
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the pill is not what I was referring to I can't stand it, taking something everyday is so annoying and the pill is so old
have a look at this What contraceptive are you? far far more than the pill and no need for chemicals either
and please do not accept the guilt of the wrong thing that is a load of crap make him take some responsibility for the decision and also keep in mind who's body it is
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