Hang on a sec, if he is the one asking for a guarantee you will be back, he can be the one that decides what he wants from you, within reason.
It sounds like you are being reasonable and I understand it from his point of view, but heck have you given him an idea you wont come back? Doesnt sound like it!
i would suggest you go to family relationships advice line or local family relationships centre and seek mediation - you can then come up with a parenting plan in writing regarding the overseas trip - if he doesn't "trust" you, he can then have it lodged as a court order
but if you sign to say you'll return them and don't, he can still follow up on details of having the children technically abducted as he has a written agreement kwim?
I agree with Briggsy's girl. Speak to a family relationships centre or community legal centre. If he is being unreasonable (sounds like he is) it is definitely possible to get a court order saying you are allowed to take the children out of the country at specified times and return them at a specified time. Also the children can be placed on a port watch list with the Federal Police to ensure that they only leave the country in keeping with the agreement and then if you don't bring them back (which you are obviously going to) he has something official and can immediately have you tracked down in NZ and brought home. Maybe this would provide some reassurance for him? But talk to a relationship centre or legal centre to find out the best way to go about this.
Good luck!
hi and thanks for your idea's so far. I do like the idea and concept of some legal proof i have to come back weathor that be a court order or be a statutory declaration if we use a stat dec i will get a nz one plus an Australian one. this morning i will be calling the school and ask them if its o.k with them next year to do this for 4 weeks in school term as this was a question the ex husband wanted me to find out to help his desition. I would think this would be fine But i would be insisitant on them taking school work or having it emailed to us and caned back t the school dont want them t miss out on ANY THING well as much as we can handle with them. I am sure they will still have some catch me up. But my new husband is a teacher aide so he will have no issue in assisting a long with me with the kids school work.
You would think he would know himself what a guarantee would be ( mean he is asking for it) hey especially knowing i married a new zealander and that all his family is there ya would think we would visit them hey. Especially if they were paying some of our fee's.
Just got of phone to school. The school was all for the trip also saying its a great idea and just make sure they do a travel journal. So i am happy. Just told the ex and he will get back to me by Friday after he has talked with friends and family regarding this.
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